To find preache "friend" annoying?

Well done for managing to keep your thoughts to yourself!!
I might not have managed it.
“Yeah right” would have been the mildest I could have done.

(I think we have all come across people like that and have wished for that great celestial banana skin to materialise at their feet)

Yes Luckygirl people like that get right up my nose! The answer? Avoid like the plague!

PS very envious of being within striking distance of T——ee Ch—— Festival!

Some People can be very self absorbed and unaware! It sounds like the case with these two. I would avoid their company as it brings you no joy and indeed the contrary?

They're the kind of self absorbed folks who get religion a bad name Lucky. Keep away, nod and smile if you see them but always be on the way to someone/something. Those people drain our energy and irritate us - both things we do not need. Well done for keeping your feelings to yourself. Mind, I sometimes wonder if the influence of work that taught us to keep our feelings to ourselves should by now have worn off.

I t4ell you who she reminds me of when she is speaking - do you remember Sybil on the end of the phone in Faulty Towers "Oh, oh dear, oh etc..." in the whiny patronising voice. And she uses it all the time. She looks at you with head-on-the-side, getting-ready-to-be-sympathetic, even when it is inappropriate - grrr!

Maw - it is truly wonderful and I maindeed very lucky! I have heard some brilliant performances, and am just off to a recital. This evening it is Mendelsson's Lobgesang - one of my favourites. It is a joy!!!

maindeed??!! - am indeed.

And title should say "preachy"!!

Iam - I fear it may wear off in a big way if I bump into them again!!!

When I was a student, one of my fellow residents 'got religion' in a big way during the summer vac. She once asked me if I would forgive her for resenting me.

Luckygirl - maybe we could start one of those consciousness raising workshops where we learn to release our inner anger

Sounds risky!!!

I think that is on the Brexit thread - lots of inner anger there!

I have a relative like this. So proud of herself because she contributes to the church magazine and goes to church, mainly for the social stuff.

This seems to make her think she is better than anyone who do not have an identical life. She has no understanding of peoples struggles and difficulties. Because she's ok. So why should the other person be disabled/blind/deaf/depressed etc. because she isn't.

It's an astounding attitude, when I was in real trouble [emotional/menopausal] she told me she'd been ok and implied I was a weak person, I should just snap out of it all....believe me I and my GP were trying everything. [But of course when an affair with a fellow married church member went wrong she wanted sympathy and attention....couldn't see she had done anything wrong. Incredible].

There are echoes of this behaviour in your post OP. Some people are ok, have good health and support and have not had real challenges in life. They live in a bubble of smugness and denial , hoping that nothing will ever happen to them.

These types are unbearable. My relative was awful when my mother had cancer treatment and eventually died. I do not have contact with her now, just birthday and Christmas cards to be civil.

Better for you to obviously give these two a very wide berth and not even engage in any conversation at all, apart from a 'good morning'...then pass by. Because things will not improve. If they press you just tell them you find them patronising and have a completely different outlook on life.

You could have said “We’re not in church now.”
I think sometimes people get used to adopting a certain tone or type of conversation in their work and don’t realise it’s affected their everyday speaking.

I have been accused of having my “teachers voice” on!

How annoying. One of the most irritating sayings to me is 'life is what you make it'. Really? Perhaps we should have told that to our teenage nephew as he lay dying of cancer. Maybe if they walked a mile in someone else's shoes they may change their attitude.

It would annoy me too. Your so-called friends are not acting towards you as a Christian should.
I used to work with a born again Christian who repeatedly told all her colleagues that we would go to hell, to which one replied - 'at least we will find our friends there'. One day her car brakes failed part way through her journey but she continued on to work in the knowledge that God would protect her! Downright irresponsible I say, she could have killed other road users.

You are not a "miserable cow" Lucky !

There are those who simply don't live in the real world. They float along in their own little bubble completely untouched by illness, sadness or poverty refusing to let anyone else's problems "bring them down".

I know someone just like this. I don't think there is anything you can do to be honest except in the words stolen from Madagascar- The Movie..... "just smile and wave boys, smile and wave"

This reminds me of when Stephen Hawking died and 'Look at the stars and not at your feet' was being quoted ad nauseam. I jokingly remarked to a woman in the village that if I did that I'd be in A&E before the end of the day.

She just patted my arm and gave me a simpering smile.

PAH!

I think it is a type of person and nothing to do with their religion. Some people are simply self righteous, we see it on here from time to time. No empathy. Fortunately there are plenty of other people, religious or not, who are far more understanding.

Quite some years ago I blew a fuse , to my priest, about a person just like this couple, I ranted - I can’t keep sitting on the same committees as that sanctimonious woman , he laughed and said think what Jesus would think - that poor woman holds her head so high above others she must have a very stiff neck . ?

Wise words Annie .

Maybe some people's main purpose in life is to make others feel sh*t about themselves.

Virtue-signalling. Lily Allen springs to mind

Oh don't get me started on her Sparklefizz grrrrrrrr

Maybe some people's main purpose in life is to make others feel sh*t about themselves

Which probably really only proves how sh*t their own lives are!

"Dimming my light won't make yours shine any brighter!" springs to mind.