To think this is a damn cheek!

YABVR, in contacting the caterer.
J is BVU.

Nope, not BU in anyway phoenix.
Your 'friend' was totally BU imo
don't do it girl!

Sorry, FarNorth what does YABVR stand for?

If they’re willing to pay you, don’t expect you to clean up etc, will take you to lunch after, I just wonder why you have been approached to do this. May as well get a local caterer person to do it who would clear up also, and not have to be taken to lunch after. Cheaper.
Are you noted for your expert bacon cooking?

No, I can understand why you don’t want to do it, especially as it seems you don’t actually meet up very often.

Would they have invited you to the Christening apart from this?

YABVR- You are being very reasonable?

Calendargirl thanks for the clarification!

I/we are NOT invited to the Christening! Just asked to cook the bloody bacon!

Well that just about takes the bacon Phoenix why can they not get a caterer in and invite you to the christening in the normal way. It's a no from me.

Not invited ? Tell her your vegan

I think it is a cheek on her part and a rather odd request.

Either tell her straight you do not want to do it or make up some excuse that you and Mr. P are going wherever for the day. She is unlikely to be driving past to check up.

To add, as far as I'm aware, the parents of the baby are not even remotely religious, seems to me like an excuse for a get together/party and presents!

Although I have my own beliefs, neither of my boys had Christenings.

What a blinking cheek !!!!!?Tell her to do it herself - I've got a large grill she can borrow ?

This all sounds very odd to me, I’m sat here giggling to myself at the thought of it.

If someone asked me to do this, especially someone I wasn’t close to, I’d tell them what they could do with their bloody bacon, honestly, what a nerve!

We've been friends for many years, although there was a rocky patch over the loan of a car!

The hall has a fully equipped kitchen, so J doesn't need anything supplied, just some mug to cook the bloody bacon!

Much as I might enjoy a Sunday lunch out, it will be a "no" from me!

But as mentioned, I hope to soften the blow by passing on the tips from the mobile caterer that comes to work.I

Many thanks for the responses.

sodapop great answer!

I would be pig sick, phoenix.

I've never heard of bacon butties being offered at a christening 'do' before, how odd.

No, YANBU

Is this a windup ?

From Phoenix? of course not.

Oh No! Not the Car Friend?

Don't do it, Phoenix. Tell her you don't have a food handler's certificate.

No I think not bridgit. Bacon butties after a church service (CofE) anyway is quite normal. I would think if the family are general church goers they could ask a church regular to help as there are many who do. I don’t think I would be inclined to help out phoenix but I do wonder if they think you might need the money. (I am putting my reasonable hat on here) when DH was off work I’ll and money in short supply, some friends of ours offered to pay him to help with computer work. Don’t imagine you’d get paid much for cooking some bacon though so probably in your position I’d say no. In my position I’d say yes because I love bacon and would do anything for a bacon roll. ?

Ill not I’ll

Bridgeit NO! Long standing member, do not do wind ups! M0nica Thankyou!

Callistemon I think the idea of the bacon rolls (which, apparently came from the mother of the baby) was prompted by the fact that the church service is at 9am. In a way, I can see the sense in that, after all its not quite the time of day for a cream tea & sponge cake!

But as for asking me to cook the bloody bacon....

I've never heard of bacon butties being offered at a christening 'do' before, how odd

Neither have I, Callistemon. Just think of all that tomato ketchup dribbling down chins while they're Mwah Mwahing under posh hats or clucking over the baby's pristine Christening gown.

Your solution is sensible and tactful. If she doesn't like it, she can lump it!

Ok thanks , apologies , best wishes Phoenix , hope you get it sorted out?

All very odd, I think I would turn it down. If she is your friend she should have invited you to the christening, not asked you to cook up bacon!

I admit I did laugh a bit at your post, which is no mean feat as I have had a horrible day. (Sorry xx)