SalsaQueen, I am certainly NOT a snob! Like many others on GN I was brought up to have manners and a sense of decorum, evidentially both sadly lacking in you!
I was miffed because I was TOLD the third party was attending rather than being asked if it was alright for them to come along. The "lack of social graces" was an opinion formed by myself and several others when we were recently in the company of the "plus one" who was loud, obnoxious, boisterous, in-drink and generally unpleasant! To that end, she remains a stranger to me as that is not the sort of person I would want to associate with under any circumstances.
The extra guest, providing she is sober on arrival, will be welcomed along with everyone else. Thank you GNetters for your comments and observations but the subject is now closed.