I totally agree with luckygirl you have decided very wisely to make big changes in your neediness to be so heavily involved in their lives ?and well done to you but your dislike of this poor lass shines through very clearly even in these reasonable and sensible posts and if we can feel it so can she Going to stay every 6 weeks and expecting them and your other daughter to be part of your family as much as possible is unreasonable They have their own lives to lead and you come across although lovely and loving as (I ll say it quietly) a bit controlling I don’t come from a damaged family but I would hate the structure of having to be part of this jolly happy family on a regular basis I could manage a few times a year but regularly no
Good luck
Water Pollution -“ A National Disgrace”? A case for renationalisation?
How much do you spend on yourself?
Being moved along by someone who "wants your place".