I understand how you feel. 2 years ago when my gd was just 10 her father was in a extremely serious rta. My daughter stayed at the hospital with him and I looked after gd in their home (plus 4 horses, 2 dogs & 2 cats!) for 10 weeks. I found out that gd was texting that I wouldn't let her watch certain tv programmes, made her tidy her room, etc etc. Daughter told her I was in charge but that different people did do things differently. It was hard on all of us, as it was nearly a 3 hour drive to hospital each way. If friends were going to visit quite often they would take gd with them. We finished painting her bedroom - I was told off for moving her huge lego set up, but I put a lot of the strops down to stress. She missed her daddy dreadfully. So there were reasons for her behaviour but I tried to keep things as 'normal' as possible and roughly to her normal routine. Pretty sure she still likes me as when we meet up I still get wonderful hugs. So what I'm trying to say, at this age they are still trying to process everything and have difficulty verbalising. Goodness knows this whole C-19 is hard enough for us adults let alone children.