Have to be careful what I say here as it could be outing.
My grown up son has rented his house for around 4yrs. His DP came to live with him about 3yrs ago and as far as I know didn’t contribute anything to the rent or household expenses. That’s the impression I got as my son said that it doesn’t cost him any more to let his DP live there.
I tend to be of the mind - never interfere in adult children’s lives and leave them to get on with things the way they see fit. However, I will give advice - but only if asked.
His DP’s parents - they have taken over quite a bit, insisting on doing things that need doing in his house. Granted, his DP asked them to. When they said they would do it, my son said that ...No, he would do it when he felt ready and had the time. They then insisted and basically took over. My son seems to be letting them walk all over him and I have said nothing because I feel as an adult, he needs to sort it out himself. It’s his business and not mine.
However, they have suggested that I could help by doing what his DP suggested. I already offered help to my son ages ago concerning the same thing but he said no he would do it.
I feel a bit insulted and feel they are taking over how my son should run his life.
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