What do you think about my 'ex'

He sounds like a complete waste of time and I wouldn't bother with him. He gets a bit horny now and then and uses the date thing as an excuse to get you there, then is bored with you. Dump him.

He doesn’t sound like an ex to me, you became friends with benefits after you split up, I don’t think he cared much for you in the first place

In two words SWIPE LEFT

This definitely isn’t going anywhere. Friends with benefits? You hardly know him. I wonder if he is married?

It’s best not to discuss other relationships with a boyfriend or partner, it causes all sorts of complications that neither of you need.
Having a man as a friend and regularly messaging can really mess up your life.

It seems to me that you are using eachother,what a waste of life.

Oh dear! Unfortunately you're just a toy to him. I'm sorry to be so blatant but, honestly, do yourself a huge favour and dump him, you're worth better than him!!!

Sounds a weird set up. There’s some good, if unwelcome advice on here. For me, the relationship you describe isn’t a relationship . I’d drop it now.

What a waste of space!
Walk away. Block him. Maybe he’s getting some vicarious pleasure hearing about your dates? What a weird set up you’ve got yourself in to.

It all sounds very childish. I really think you both need to grow up a bit.

Friends with benefits, really!
Where is your self respect?

A lot of teenagers seem to think we are agony aunts, JenniferEccles I have lost count of the number of posts from what sound like fourteen-year-olds writing about teenage dating tangles.

You sound very young yet you are on a site for grandmothers.

It reads a bit like an agony aunt question in a teen magazine!

I can't quite understand all of your post but the behaviour of hoth of you and your female friend sounds very silly and immature to me. I think it's time to consider acting more adult. Sorry if that sounds rude.

Have some self respect! You sound like a teenager with a crush .

A person who is older than 30 13 and playing these tricks is not worth it.

Why bother with him - what's the point?

A person who is older than 30 and playing these tricks is not worth it.

Sneaking out and meeting round the corner for a snog isn’t dating, unless you’re about 12.

Ditto. The last time I read something like this was in my Jackie comic when I was 12.
MsCarol he's made it perfectly clear that he's not interested in a relationship with you. Move on and take your pride with you, unless you're happy to settle for a quick snog in a doorway.

MsCarol As the film title goes: He’s just not that into you.

Too many mental games for my taste. Life is too short for this bs

Unless you like complications and hassle there's nothing in this for you.

Well he’s not your ‘ex’ you said he was a friend with benefits
Sounds like you’re happy to come and go and discuss your many dates with him It doesn’t sound as if he’s remotely interested in you he sounds weird and you sound like you re 15

Life is too short for nonsense like this.

Time to salavage your self respect and move on.

What makes him so wonderful and what is it that you want exactly?

The clue was there when he “ended it” to attend to his daughter. That doesn’t make sense. Adults don’t end personal relationships when something else needs their attention for a while.

When he “goes cold’ he’s interested in and probably having sex with someone else. If you are happy with that and are happy to be part of his harem and have occasional sex with him then remain as friends with benefits but from what you’ve described, there really is no prospect of anything more substantial so move on.