What do you think about my 'ex'

You're keeping him amused until something better comes along.

I wouldn't particularly want a friend like him. If he's a diversion for you when you're bored, fair enough. But that only works if you have no feelings for him.

He sounds a bit weird to me. Move on…….

Oh dear.

Hello again Carol. You were never an item, move on.

Really - where is your self esteem? He is using you.

GagaJo

You're keeping him amused until something better comes along.

I wouldn't particularly want a friend like him. If he's a diversion for you when you're bored, fair enough. But that only works if you have no feelings for him.

Yep, or stop investing any more time on this.
No day dreams or what ifs.
Block him, and move on.

I don't think very much of him tbh and neither should you.
You need to think more about yourself.
I had a lovely friend who went on dating apps and she seemed to be a different person with men totally different to if she met them in RL not online.

This is not a lecture. Step back and think about how he has really been with you.
You don't need this rubbish.

How were you friends with benefits ( that means having sex surely) at the height of lockdown ? Unless you ignored the rules of course
Bet I don’t get an answer…

You can indeed get an answer. I live on my own and so does he (part lives with his daughter) and we started dating during lockdown. I know we ignored rules but we both spent the majority of lockdown alone and we bubbled up... we became friends with benefits after breaking up. I only dated him during lockdown. Not like I was hooking up with every Tom, dick or Harry!

I don’t think anything’s changed since MsCarol posted about this in July.

Maybe we’ll get an update in September.

Sorry I couldn't fully follow your dating story so I can't comment.

What do I think about your ex? I think he should remain 'ex'.

I don't think he is even an ex. He was a date for a short time, you have chatted a bit to him occasionally since, but you were never really an item and have nothing in common. Stop building him up in your mind as a possible great love, and find someone real.

Get rid.
I have had two episodes of online dating before meeting my now DP online a few years ago.
Most were nice decent guys, but there were certainly a lot like him. I think he sees it as a game and you are just a pawn in that game. He sounds like he has a huge ego
You deserve better.

Sorry Carol, he's already said "he wants me (you) to meet someone"..

Agree with everyone else. He sounds a waste of time. Don't bother is my advice.

MsCarol

You can indeed get an answer. I live on my own and so does he (part lives with his daughter) and we started dating during lockdown. I know we ignored rules but we both spent the majority of lockdown alone and we bubbled up... we became friends with benefits after breaking up. I only dated him during lockdown. Not like I was hooking up with every Tom, dick or Harry!

You still broke guidelines. So…I’m out.

He's not an ex

He was a dalliance with all the risk that entails, especially during a pandemic.

Sneaking out and meeting round the corner for a snog isn’t dating, unless you’re about 12.

What do I think of your 'ex'? - He's a self-centred plonker.

What do I think of you? - A foolish woman with more time than sense.

Let this man mess you around if you like, but don't imagine he's anything resembling a friend.

What makes him so wonderful and what is it that you want exactly?

The clue was there when he “ended it” to attend to his daughter. That doesn’t make sense. Adults don’t end personal relationships when something else needs their attention for a while.

When he “goes cold’ he’s interested in and probably having sex with someone else. If you are happy with that and are happy to be part of his harem and have occasional sex with him then remain as friends with benefits but from what you’ve described, there really is no prospect of anything more substantial so move on.

Life is too short for nonsense like this.

Time to salavage your self respect and move on.

Well he’s not your ‘ex’ you said he was a friend with benefits
Sounds like you’re happy to come and go and discuss your many dates with him It doesn’t sound as if he’s remotely interested in you he sounds weird and you sound like you re 15

Unless you like complications and hassle there's nothing in this for you.