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AIBU - to feel bereft

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Mammar59 Sat 09-Oct-21 18:43:38

I'm full of cold at the moment. It has been particularly full on. Not covid as I have tested twice. Today I made a pan of Chicken and Vegetable broth. I also took out some steak from the freezer for dinner and told my husband and daughter. We normally eat around 7pm to 8pm. Well I went for a lie down at 3:30 pm saying I'll be about an hour. I awake at 5pm to smell tea cooking. Go into the kitchen. Husband is taking dinner out of the oven. Crispy coated chicken! He says, 'I've cooked this for us two as we didn't know if you would sleep on. We thought you would have the rest of your soup'. I said 'You both knew I got the steak out and we don't normally eat this early'. The answer was, 'Well daughter wanted to go home early'. She has a flat nearby but eats with us for convenience and to save money.
So why do I feel upset and bereft. Probably because when I am well I do all the cooking. I feel like I have had a premonition of what life could be without me around. It has quite affected me.

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Mammar59 Sat 09-Oct-21 23:08:21

Kim19

I hope you 'continued' to leave the washing up. I see that as the unforgivable part.

Left them and now my husband is washing them. I will help him dry and put away.

Thank you all for your feedback

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Callistemon Sat 09-Oct-21 23:12:22

I will help him dry and put away.
Go back to bed and ask him to bring you up a nice hot honey and lemon drink!
Don't be a martyr.

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Mammar59 Sat 09-Oct-21 23:17:47

Callistemon

^I will help him dry and put away^.
Go back to bed and ask him to bring you up a nice hot honey and lemon drink!
Don't be a martyr.

I can hear him drying as I type. I think my coolness towards him tonight has hit home. I told him how disappointed I am and he has taken it on board. As others have said he thought he was helping by leaving me in bed. He is making me a nightcap too. Result I think. thanks

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Callistemon Sat 09-Oct-21 23:21:51

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Sleep tight!
Hope you feel better tomorrow.

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Mammar59 Sun 10-Oct-21 19:37:19

Callistemon

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Sleep tight!
Hope you feel better tomorrow.

Thank you. I had a goodnight and a little better today xx

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Callistemon Sun 10-Oct-21 19:39:42

Good, but don't overdo things.

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