To wish she would be the same with us?

No she didn’t *YellowMelow, she expressed a view that she would like a closer, more personal, relationship with an employee. It seems that the employee doesn’t reciprocate.

That is beside the point. If you read some of the comments they are just plain nasty and unnecessary and that is my point.

so you are taking it as a serious query then ?
those who are not are replying in a jocular vein.
which is not rude but for entertainment value.

Imagine being friend with your employer and you do something your employer doesnt like or agree with - totally unrelated to your work

Does the employee have to be scared to lose her job for that?

Perhaps she’s strong on professional boundaries. Makes life easier in the long run in my experience (not with personal staff - never had any), especially if something goes awry.

Yellowmellow

Why is it people have to make snide and nasty comments? I never quite get it. The lady expressed a view that she would like a better relationship with an employee. No need for these snidey comments

The lady, or possibly gentleman, expressed a wish for a closer, more personal relationship with an employee. The employee did not reciprocate. Yes, they are being unreasonable.

As a young mum I worked as a cleaner/ ironer five mornings a week 9-12 , I was fortunate to be able to take my children with me ( they were very good, would nap or sit and colour for the 3 hours)
Most of my clients came via a local estate agent, two ladies in particular stand out, one an Italian lady with no children ( I’m in the UK) moved to my small town with her husband who traveled for work a lot. The other was a French lady again with a husband away for days at a time. Both of these ladies were open about feeling lonely and isolated at times.
Anyway, when my children started school I was invited to go for a meal out, I declined at first as felt very uncomfortable but over time did agree and it developed into a mutual friendship. One lady returned to London after a few years but the other was a friend until her husband passed away and she moved to live with her grandson.
I remember with much affection these ladies who were so kind and gave so generously. So my advice is don’t push a relationship, one will develop if it’s meant to be.

Yellowmellow

That is beside the point. If you read some of the comments they are just plain nasty and unnecessary and that is my point.

That is very much the point. I have read all the comments. Some people are having a joke. Nobody has been rude or nasty.

There speaks the voice of experience BabyLayla.

YellowMellow I agree with Blossoming to use a social media platform to ask such a question is always going to raise a few eyebrows!

The responses are tongue in cheek not nasty.

What I really think is the OP is trying to show off and our way of dealing with it is take the

So where have you gone, TopsyandTim? Nothing to say?

You think she'd have the decency to come back and have the piss taken a bit more.
What a liberty!

Ha! Ha! Is this post a joke?

whatever gave you that idea !

MissAdventure

You think she'd have the decency to come back and have the piss taken a bit more.
What a liberty!

Thats your view Blossom. Let someone else express their views. Doesn't mean you have to be right

Yellowmellow

Thats your view Blossom. Let someone else express their views. Doesn't mean you have to be right

Yes that is my view, and I see others agree with me. You have expressed your view as have many others, doesn’t mean I have to be wrong. Expressing views is what people do in forums.

MissAdventure

You think she'd have the decency to come back and have the piss taken a bit more.
What a liberty!

Is that said in a Kathrine Tate voice ? I can hear her saying it. ?

Blossoming l think you also need to take on board your own comment

I was hired to housekeep for a lovely family but never socialised and would not have wanted to. I did my job and took my pay. No more no less

Sago

This is exactly why our butler got the heave ho!

@Sago
I had the same trouble!! Butlers, housekeepers, gardeners - just can't get the staff, ha ha

It is not that unusual to have staff, a neighbour employed a housekeeper, nanny, cleaner and gardner because she had four children quite close together. This is just a street of semi detached houses not country piles.

What did the housekeeper do harrigran, given there was also a cleaner?

I have had a live in domestic helper (overseas) and now have a cleaner who comes weekly. I've had a good relationship with both but even with our live in the relationship never extended to a personal friendship.