DH is just the same - and always has been, so it isn't a question of age.
In my case it is DH is over thinking his answer and trying to think what I am really getting at when I say something simple like any of Sago's question
Ask about the suit and his immediate reaction, is: she is asking because she wants to leave enough time for me to realise I need a new suit, but I do not need a new suit.
Ask about the car and his immediate reaction, OH, is she wanting to use car A and then come back and use car B for something specific
Ask about the logs, and he is thinking 'we want the decorator out of the house before we start thinking about log deliveries.
I have said to DH, time and again to just answer the question and stop second guessing me If there is a follow up I will then ask it.
I have started prefixing questions with phrases like 'For information only, what is the time? suffixing with 'now, just answer the question, do not second guess me'
Still, he is worth it.