adopt a nanny

Quite a commitment for someone. I wish you luck with your search.

Do be careful, not everyone reading this may be a nice white haired old lady. Are you looking for free childcare ?

I am sorry but there are people out there who go out of their way to befriend single mothers to get at their children.

I think you need to be extremely careful. You need to make friends with people and get to know them well before you even think of having them as virtual grandparents.

Agree with nelliemoser, this could be a recipe for disaster, be very careful.

If you are looking for a support network, I think you should find other mums with young children and develop friendships with them. There are so many groups run for young toddlers these days where you can meet other parents and your little one can play with other children. When my children were young, they rarely saw their grandparents as we live on an island but we would meet older people at church or in the village and would smile and chat with them.
As the others say, be very careful. Your child is the most precious little one and you would not want anything untoward to come from meeting up with strangers from the internet.

don't be so negative people.

It's a nice thought trosie and I wish you luck in your search. I can see where you're coming from, but don't expect free childcare if that is your prime aim.

Where are your daughter's natural grandparents in all this?

Trosie, where are you? What do you think of the responses so far?

Its already been proved its an excellent idea to have surrogate grandparenting its a very good idea.

Hi Trosie, I came across this thread in looking for something else (for my Mum) but just wondered what/ where you ended up moving to? I am in St Lens with a 3.5 yr old daughter and would be happy to meet up/ introduce you to people. x

Could I add please do not give away any information on open forum (more than a vague location, and absolutely no pictures or even hint of names) these threads are open to all and tricksters and others of their ilk can be very ingenious in identifying vulnerable people.

Not negative, grandfriend, just careful. It can be a very positive experience for both when older people befriend children, and no-one wants to deprive either of them.

However, there ARE nasty people out there who would just love to link up with a trusting family of young children - or with a lonely older person. Ignoring that fact is like not putting on a seatbelt because you are a careful driver and never have accidents. The facility to check is there, like the facility to wear a seatbelt, so use it.

Trosie I fully understand your need to search for a Grandma for yoyr LO. I have recently found a perfect Grandma for my daughter. But it’s not for childcare reasons, it’s because this lady just adores my daughter and has become a fan of all the baby pics I post on FB and she’s actually been a family friend on my husbands side for years and she has no grandchildren of her own and would love to be so I’d like to do this for her. She lives close by and I’m just buying all the little gifts to present to her shortly to ask if she’ll be my LO’s Grandma. So fingers crossed she says yes. I know my search has been made easier for me as I know her but if you look in the right places you may find one too. There are official sites offering this service so it’s not unheard of. Incidentally what has happened to your daughter’s father’s family? Any links there still?