Sorry I need to give some of the back story.
I don't know if anyone will remember but I have a 90yr old friend (I was her DIL for 22yrs but divorced her alcoholic son 20+ years ago) we managed to stay in touch despite everything and since her husband died 12yrs ago I've been visiting and shopping for her every month. So, she had a son and a daughter and 6 grandchildren , her son my ex died from Liver disease 3yrs ago and she had a falling out with her daughter and 3 of her granddaughters 10yrs ago with NO contact between them since. {sad}
So apart from my visits and occasional phone calls from my daughters she is alone and very lonely, but she is a difficult woman and has never had good relationships with her children or grandchildren. I just have a conscience that she is alone in the world so keep up my visits, my husband comes with me and help with odd jobs and shopping as we are able.
She lives in her own house about an hour away from us and is very independent, manages to feed and keep house for herself very well but of course at her age is getting a little forgetful and frail nowadays she has resisted all suggestions for help and hates the thought of having people in her house she doesn't know.
Well done if you are still with me at last today she admitted she probably will have to 'go into a home' that's how she put it or at least sheltered housing.
So as I am the only one in contact with her its going to fall to me to take this forward and I just spent a couple of hours researching elderly care/homes.
My questions are what kind of home/care should I be looking for?
Should she buy or rent?
Do I persuade her to look at places nearer us?
Am I looking at council/private/ housing association sheltered housing?
Would I be able to help her sell her house and would that have to be done before sorting out a new home ?
She will have money from the sale of her house of at least 300K but I am at a bit of a loss as to where to start and she has no clue about such things or even if she wants to buy a home or pay rent . She is quite well at present but at 90 who knows how long she will be able to care for herself.
Sorry again for the long post but I thought the explanations were needed , I'm sure I'll have more questions as I start this process and I will need to have that 'conversation' with her so want to have at least a little knowledge before then.
Shall we reboot our cartoons thread again? 😁
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