I recently discovered that my daughter and partner had been involved in a situation that affected their wellbeing but only learned about it after the event. I queried why I hadn't been told about it and she said her partner said not to tell me (or his mum). I asked him why this was and he said, in effect, he thought I wouldn't be able to handle it. This is the second such time that he has kept a serious incident from me, the first being when my daughter was hospitalised and she was in no position to let me know and he didn't contact me until much later. I think he's coming from the standpoint that his mother is very much someone that gets hysterical and so assumes I am the same, which I am not. My daughter and I have been through some tough times together and she knows she can rely on me and that I would be OK with it. I see very little of my daughter due to her work commitments and feel that this sort of attitude is distancing me even further from her. Of course they are adults and can choose to let me know things or not and I respect that. However my relationship with my daughter did not used to be like this. I feel I should let them know how I feel but I don't want to make the situation worse. Any thoughts?
Scottish island ferries debacle. 🏴