Just a 5 minute post Christmas moan. As usual one son promised I would see DGS
'loads over Christmas' and DIL effusively said they would call in Tuesday bank hol. I took both with a pinch of salt as a.) This sort of thing has been said before, and b.) things do crop up, ie, their friends or DIL family arrive or stay much longer than planned ( three days instead of one this time). I try to be easy going, help out when needed ( often at 5 mins notice), but often feel very left out at holiday times, and the two of them both get generous holidays off work. I could go over and see them quite easily as they live 10 mins away, but it often goes a bit silent if I arrive when her family are there, or I feel a bit pushed out. Her parents live 15 mins away, but often stay over because they like a drink or two.I try to be very easy going with son, and more than once he has said I need to stand up a bit for myself against DIL family, but honestly, is it worth it? Do I say " well, thought I would see DGS more this hol" or just think, "well that's how they are"and accept it?I know there are several days left of the hol, but I know son & DIL have planned sale shopping , have two parties etc. Life seems much easier if you accept things, or is it taking it lying down? I have a wise partner( not my sons father, but gets on with them very well)who says leave it be.....
I am not a nasty person but ……