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My DH was so bad mannered in a social situation

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over60plus Sun 09-Apr-17 21:33:12

We are very fond of dancing, we have a wide circle of like minded friends one of our dances changed venues my Sister and Her husband came along, we made them welcome came and joined us a couple of weeks in they bring along a couple of friends we all move round to make room, then last week more came along

Wasn't room for us to sit with our friends so I suggested we move my DH said lot likely so a very uncomfortable evening, unbeknown to me my Brother in law and tried to introduce this new couple to my DH and apparently he said not interested very rude in my opinion when I went to sit back down all turned backs on me.

We had a row from hell on our return home he said sorry didn't know what had come over him. Then this morning brother in law turns up with something he had borrowed said I will not be coming in, Tried to explain how they had forced there way in used us until they got feet under table, and we felt driven away, he is a retired Solicitor so very intimidating he said we were sad and miserable we have been with our circle for over 15 years

kooklafan Tue 11-Apr-17 08:40:02

We were at a rubbish tip once when a younger person decided to 'help' us even though we had already told them no thank you.
They literally climbed into the back of our estate car to get to the rubbish we were unloading.
My shock at this resulted in my being extremely rude to them.
I told my DH "I don't know what came over me" but I certainly was not excusing my behaviour.
Just Saying!

Jalima1108 Tue 11-Apr-17 11:02:27

Perhaps they were looking to see if you were throwing away an unexpected treasure kooklafan

Next seen on the Antiques Road Show!

MawBroon Tue 11-Apr-17 12:01:42

I am puzzled by this "social situation". You were among friends, right? Your DH had a grumpy exchange with BIL - so that's family, still right?

Surely somebody is overthinking this. It's not like some social gaffe at the Lord Mayor's Banquet is it?

Put it behind you, move on, and if BIL says any more, laugh it off as a Victor Meldrew moment.

f77ms Wed 12-Apr-17 08:26:24

You sound more like stroppy teenagers rather than adults ! You may all have enjoyed `the new people` and made some new friends . I found your post a bit difficult to understand , who turned their backs on you ? It seems to be more like a clique where new people are not wanted ?

retrolady2 Wed 12-Apr-17 08:54:44

Glad you said that f77ms. Thought it was just me. I also found the OP difficult to understand. Reminded me of my days working in a school trying to sort out a tiff between teenage, hormonal girls.

Jalima1108 Wed 12-Apr-17 10:52:47

laugh it off as a Victor Meldrew moment.
"I don't believe it"