In April I decided to get a small dog to keep me company. In fact an 8 week old Shih tzu.
In June I found a lump in my breast, which turned out to be grade 3 aggressive breast cancer. I had 2 surgeries in 5 weeks, as they didn't get it all the first time.
I had my first chemotherapy 2 weeks ago, but there have been some complications as its made my stomach problems flare up. I have a long history of acid reflux and ulcer...a burst stomach ulcer killed my mum, and I found her dead in her chair.
The oncologist recommended I double the Omeprozole I've been taking for years although I was already on the maximum dose,as any ulcers, wounds and sores are extremely dangerous while immunity is compromised.
These tablets have already destroyed my bones, but I need the to stay alive. Since upping the dose to double the maximum I'm in dreadful pain deep in my bones. Also I have fibromyalgia and M.E, which could be contributing to the pain and fatigue. I dont seem to have recovered from the chemo due to all this, and I am totally and utterly exhausted as I can't seem to sleep.
However the above is not what I need help with. I live on a small over 55s complex, and my neighbours offered to have my now 8 month old puppy when I go for chemo etc. She is 66 and he 77 years old. They have a 38 year old son who has never left home. I thought they were very kind, and accepted their offer, but now wishing I hadn't.
They have no friends, and the neighbours avoid them, because they just tal and talk and talk. The othe day I let my dog out and the man copped me, although I kept saying I was freezing and was going in he totally ignored me, anf it was half an hour before I could get away and then I had to be firm and just walk in my door. Then she comes over and stays 1 1/2 hours. She just moaned and moaned wanting me to solve her problems. I told her I had no sleep and been up all night. At one point I was slumped sideways in the chair totally exhausted.
To be blunt they are ignorant in every way. Neither the wife or son knows how to pay a bill, and they are rather strange.
The son told me that they don't look after my dog just as an act of kindness, but because they have become quite besotted with my dog. Theyve always had dogs, but cant have one as they're property is an apartment.
I dont know what to do as every time I go out to let the dog have a wee they come and talk to her, and then the dog doesn't go. They even wave to the dog.
Im on the verge of losing my temper as I feel so dreadfully ill, exhausted, and dont have the patience for this. How do you make people like this listen ?
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I'm sorry to hear how poorly you have been and how miserable this all is for you. I'm afraid you are going to have to be Jack Blunt. I think people like this don't take hints or gentle persuasion. Just tell them you are too ill to cope with socialising at the moment and have been ordered to rest. I think you may find some help with the dog for your hospital visits from several of the animal charities. You could start with the Dogs Trust. I do hope you are feeling a little better soon 
All good advice from the other posters. You do need to see your GP about the effect you feel you are having from increasing your omeprozole on the advice of the oncologist. Let them investigate and offer you further advice. Have you any nearby family to support you with the problems surrounding your dog and your neighbours? It's hard to be blunt with people when it's not your nature to be so, but as Teetime says, I think you must try to be, if you can. Your well being is more important. .
Sorry you're having a hard time, Yorkshiregirl and your neighbour must be driving you up the wall.
I hope this gives you a smile....Instead of losing your temper, why not make him a cuppa in this?
Yes! Good advice above, you need to get someone else for the dog sitting, then you're going to have to fall out with these people who are a nuisance, tell them to leave your dog alone when you are out with it for a wee. Be firm! The stress of them will not help your recovery. I'm sorry that you are so ill and in pain.
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