My son hurt his partner

What a sensible and caring person you are I am so glad you and your son have spoken and that he understands his role in this and it sounds as if as you say they were both the wrong people to be together He sounds a damaged man through his loss of a sibling I hope you can talk him into some counselling or help of some kind and that he can stop the heavy drinking There sounds a lot more hope and perhaps they will be better friends apart, than lovers together. You will miss your grandchild but I m sure you will have a good relationship with him even if more miles are between you
You have probably saved three lives with your bravery
Good luck Grandmainoz

I just a wrote a long post, but it's disappeared into the ether! Grr!
Anyway, I just wanted to say that your actions in helping his mum will hopefully mean that you can continue to develop a relationship with your grandson via Skype or Facetime in the future. You have demonstrated your compassionate heart at great cost to yourself GrandmainOz - well done.

Thankyou again everyone. I don't think I deserve praise. The girl didn't have a mother here, so I simply tried to be that person for a little while and protect her. I adore my son but my eyes are wide open. I'm not one to bury my head in the sand.
I joined GN as I have become so isolated and lonely since other AC death. Boy, am I glad I took that step! You ladies are wonderful.
Despite my name I am British and miss my home and family. I am the matriarch here and the one everybody turns to. And since my mother died recently I don't even have her weekly calls and emails, always with encouragement and support from afar.
Thankyou for your sorely needed input, all of you

And you wouldn't want to bury your head in the sand with your eyes wide open! What a mix of metaphors. Idiot!!

Plus I don't think those are even metaphors! I think I'm a bit delirious from all the shock and worry. Sorry

Now is the time for you to sit back and rest.How much violence and, even murders would be stopped if more parents were able to be as honest as you have been over your son, whom you clearly love, but are not blind to his faults

GrandmainOz well done

GrandmainOz,I think you are amazing and thoroughly deserve the praise.As M0nica says how many violent acts could have been prevented if other parents were able to be as honest as you have been over your son.?

Well done! As the mother of two large sons, I hope I would have your mental strength GrandmainOz if I were in that position.

Hope all gone according to plan GrandmainOz safety first.

But if you are in Australia, I would think a short haul flight must mean somewhere closer than UK.

If children born in Australia they will be Australian citizens and there could be some problems to face in the near future.

Good luck

GOZ appologies missed a page out with your update.
Hope you will be able to visit your grandchild very soon and skype when ever possible. Xx

GrandmaOz you have done the right thing. Rest yourself now xx

OMG, what an awful experience for you. PERFECT! You have done absolutely the right thing. Every Dr’s Surgery is supposed to have a Dr or Practioner who deals with Pysciological issues, discussing this incident and any others, might help you to make informed decisions. If he was a ‘loving’ son, and has not exhibited violent/agressive tendencies before, their might be health issues/money worries/involvement with someone else.

Thanks all. I think exhaustion has hit after the panic. Wiped out! Have had a message from son's partner with photo of GC and her mother has asked me if we can work together so GC can see both parents. I will work hard to keep those channels open.
So far she hasn't let Son have a video call with GC but on my advice he hasn't pressed that and is going to politely txt that request tomorrow.
I must stress he has been a loving, hands on father. A very bad partner but always good with the child.
When I saw him today he showed me the injury he received in the altercation between him and partner. Obviously he should have held back from ANY physical contact. But I did check her for injuries when I brought her to my home and she didn't have a mark on her.
My son's explanation of the night plus some of the girl's mother's comments to me today...well I'm starting to think there may be undiagnosed mental issues with both parties and they both need professional medical input.
I'm glad the other grandmother has GC at her home. She will be able to keep a close watch on how he is faring.
I will see my son again tomorrow. My fear is that he will start drinking. He needs to focus on his child and not fall down that hole. This is no time for self pity, but for reflection and resolution. If he wants to see child he must show exemplary behaviour in my view.
Thankyou all for listening to my long posts.
Going to try to sleep now

I think you should be applauded for taking evasive action like you did . So a huge well done from me and if ever one of my sons did the same I hope I would act just as you did.
If your son distances himself from you because of what you did then it will be due to his shame but it sounds as if that's not happened so hopefully he might go get counselling he needs for his anger management at least.
I hope by now you know for sure that what you did was definitely the right thing to do and you must have certainly gained some respect from the dil and her family for how you dealt with it and by putting her and the child s safety first before your son.