I am not too worried about the actual moment of transition, volunteering in a hospice I am aware that for most people that follows a period of loss of consciousness. I do hope that pain relief if needed will be sufficient. But I suppose I do mentally keep counting down - will I have 15 or 20 years left? How much of my savings can I afford to spend this year? Will my DH go first, and will I cope if he does? Will I keep my mental faculties?
When we are younger we have big events to look forward to - careers, marriage, birth of children, even birth of grandchildren. But after a certain age there isn't that long term view, we have to be content with a limited amount of time left, and not looking that far ahead, which is an adjustment. I don't think this is morbid, it helps to plan, decluttering, making wills etc. For those of us who have a bit of a tendency to want to control everything, this is the one thing we cannot control, so naturally a bit frustrating!