Had/have one like that. The main problem was that she was convinced that she could bring herself up quite satisfactorily without any input from her parents and was determined to do so at all costs.
How did we deal with her? Well, we had as few rules as possible but I had very clear boundaries. With in those boundaries I would put up with a lot, but boundaries included not hurting other people, whether with words or actions. No rudeness to others and nothing dangerous or destructive. If boundaries were breached I was implacable, if I threatened a punishment, I would do it.
DD has since told me that knowing if I said I would sanction her in some way, I would and would not change my mind, did stop her doing somethings plus that, as I had so few rules, she did grudgingly accept that possibly I did know better in those cases where I insisted they were obeyed, even though on a matter of principle, she would kick up a fuss.
She is now in her mid 40s. In her early 20s she decided, of her own volition, that she was far too uncompromising to ever be able to make a relationship work and is happily single. She has her own house a well paid and successful career, lots of friends and dotes on her niece and nephew. She is caring, thoughtful and principled.
We still have occasional confrontations, because she is till convinced that she always knows best, but I have learnt to avoid any real rows and in fact that has always been my strength. She complains bitterly that when she is all wound up and really wants to have a confrontation with someone, I just shrug, smile and say 'Lets agree to differ' and start talking about something else.