I went through this with my daughter she has one daughter but had a miscarriage with the 2nd. She took her miscarriage very badly we all did. Then she found out she was expecting again. Joy, I thought but rather than being joyful she was anxious, depressed and distressed for the whole pregnancy.
It was very hard she would ring me every day (sometimes five six times a day) convinced her bay had gone. I had to keep reassuring her, calming her down, supporting her. Some days she would scream at me telling me not to give her false hope and she knew her baby had gone.
I could never express to you how hard it was. So emotionally draining. If she didn’t suffer sickness one day, she would be adamant the baby had gone. If the baby stopped moving for a moment, she went into panic mode. I was terrified every time the phone range. I was also terrified that her distressed state would bring on a miscarriage.
Then on the night she went into have her baby My SIL rang me to say there was a problem I didn’t sleep I cried and waited but he didn’t call. He assumed I had gone to bed!!!! ( I was pacing the walls)
The positive vibe in this story is that my beautiful grandson was born I year ago, he is a lovely, happy handful and a real nanny’s boy. I am sure he is all the more precious for what we went through My daughter suffers with anxiety and I do not know if it’s like this for everyone but I do know a miscarriage doesn’t have to mean the next pregnancy will go the same way. I hope it all works out for you as a family. Do let us know.