About 10 years ago we decided (and told) our 4 adult children that we would not be buying them xmas presents anymore (other than a token bottle wine/chocs) and that we did not expect anything from them either.
The reason being that we all had plenty of money (i mean all working really) and could buy ourselves whatever we wanted and it saved all that stress at xmas.
We would however buy for grandchildren when they came along. Everyone was fine with this.
Fast forward 10 years and my husbands 3 children have 8 children (gc to us) between them, we set an amount and for the last 7 years, since the first gc came, we have spent the same amount on each gc.
As you can imagine this tots up to a fair amount, there being 8 of them. However, my daughter does not have any children and I can't help but think this a little unfair that we spend so much on his GC but nothing on my daughter, her having no children of our own. She is not in a well paid job and has never been in a solid relationship though i hope that will come in the future. I guess i feel sorry for her especially as she is my only child.
I don't know why but this is starting to grate on me. I spoke to OH about this and he suggested that we now give a specified cash amount to each of our 4 children as a gift to each of their family units...so each child will receive the same (including my daughter) and spend as they wish on their families.
The question is AIBU to feel like this, is this fair?, I'm starting to wonder if i was being petty.
Son’s girlfriend diagnosed with BPD
