If you do not have a Power of Attourney in place for your parents, then it would be agood idea to get one put in place whilst they still have the mental capacity to grant one. You could also contact the Social Services Elderly Adult care team at your local council, and explain that you are finding it difficult to cope with your husbands health problems, your Fathers situation and you simply cannot take on your Mothers needs as well. Ask for a Social worker to be allocated to you as carer of your Husband, then ask for a best intrest decision to be made regarding your mothers care. This will give the Social worker the power to arrange whatever care is needed for your parents as if they were the ones who held the Power of Attorney status for both your Elderly parents. My heart goes out to you, we have recently been through a similar situation with my Elderly Dad and Step Mother, and realise just how difficult this can be.
Kate Garroway-Care at home costs