Hello I’m actually under tremendous stress at the moment. I hsve both parents almost 100 yrs old in June. Since New Year my father spent 3 weeks in hospital ill he also has Alzheimer’s. No sooner was he home when my mother was admitted to hospital with hallucinations n then a fall. I managed to get my father into respite and today my mother has been discharged. However, I’m in a situation now where she wants my father to return home. My sister and I do not get on and she went awsy a few days ago on holiday. I wanted carers for my parents 12 months ago on the advice of my parents GP. It was set up but I then took a call to say my sister had phoned to cancel it as she had discussed it with my mother and didn’t want it. Today my father has been very confused and staff at the home ssid he’s had a couple of days like this. I have brought my mother to stay with me temporarily as I coukd not allow her to go hone straight from hospital to be alone overnight. My sister knew she would be alone before she went o. Holiday and arranged a bed to be brought downstairs for her. My DH is almost 79 and is not well and has a serious health condition which has to be regularly monitored. Because social services have assessed my mother and say she has capacity to make her own decisions I just don’t know what I can do. My mother refused to be on her own at night. I’m finding it so hard and don’t know what I can do. My sister and her family have ‘ghosted’ me for the last few years and say I hsve not done enough. My elderly mother stayed with me last August when my father was in hospital, again in January and is currently here again. My family live at the other side of the world. I barely get to see them. Last year my sister n bro in law had three holidays. We went awsy once in July as my DH was facing major surgery. My sister sent a message to my daughter ssying I should have been ashamed leaving two 99 yr olds and going away. My situation is tough but made worse by a sister who isn’t very nice. I don’t know what to do I’m at a loss, worried and upset . Any advice would be welcomed.
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