Son’s non wedding day

Our youngest daughter was due to go to Las Vegas to get married at Easter. We should also have had the baby while they were away!

We just sent a very nice bottle of champagne.

DD's older children (aged 8 and 7) organised a complete ceremony for them with key rings for rings, a set of vows and flower petals for confetti.

Not sure if your circumstances would enable this but could you arrange for a local restaurant to send around a special meal for them? Also a nice bottle of wine or champagne. Although here (I'm not in the UK) we cannot eat at a restaurant many of them are open for take away or delivery of meals.

Do you mean it’s a month ago that they were due to get married?
Did you do anything for them on the actual day?
Sorry, but I don’t see why you want to celebrate something that didn’t happen a month ago.
Maybe it’s just me.

I think the op means 'in a month's. Or that's how I read it!

kitty I think you are right, I totally mis read the whole thing! Got up before I was properly awake......

We are in the same situation. My son was getting married in Corfu in June. All postponed till 2021. So sad. Guests in difficult process of trying to get flight and hotel refunds.
We are hoping that by the wedding date restrictions may be a little less stringent and we can at least see them.
Like the idea of getting them some tasty cheese and wine. Family video sounds wonderful.

While I sympathise with all the weddings on hold I can’t understand why couples don’t just actually get married-with video links-at the time then have a reception later?

My thoughts too Newquay, you can have the legal marriage without the party.

Were you having a church wedding, or was the ceremony to be somewhere else like hotel?

I don’t think weddings at the moment are allowed full stop.

I was under the impression that only essential Weddings for example where one partner is terminally ill were actually taking place at the moment? Most registrars and clergy are operating the strict self distancing rules and the registration of Births and Deaths are now being done online rather than face to face in a registry office.

Perhaps new legislation would be needed, for weddings to be performed by video link.

Isn't it comparatively recent that they could be held anywhere other than a church or register office, in England?

Could you arrange for a meal for them to be delivered? A lot of restaurants and pubs are now delivering meals to homes. Or even afternoon tea including a cake ?
If you belong to Facebook and your local Facebook group, you can ask for recommendations I am sure. I know that where I live, within a 10 mile radius, there are several companies, from bakeries to tea rooms that will make up a special tea and arrange to deliver it to your son. Don't forget yourself either - have a treat!

FarNorth, other venues have been licensed for marriages in England since 1994.

Get close family and friends to send a video message on the day or compile them with some music to post on day. ??

Have a family Zoom party? All toast the couple, maybe someone could do a speech or some readings or play some music?

Thanks, Cabbie.
That seems recent to me.

Many pubs and restaurants are doing takeaway food now (to keep their staff in employment). Why not have the family all arrange their own takeaway meal on that night, get dressed up, and have a communal dinner meeting via Zoom?

Weddings are not allowed for the foreseeable future I understand.

Have just celebrated big birthday under lockdown. So, of course, no family/friends gathering. No holiday. No meals out.

I had a lovely birthday nevertheless. Largely because of the family Zoom party organised by my adult children along the lines that vegansrock suggests.

It made me - and them - so happy. - Perhaps it might work for the couple and you too?[smiley]

Maybe I am being thick, but why would they want to celebrate on that day? I would have thought they just want the day to pass quietly.

Why not dress up in all your finery whilst observing whatever restrictions are in place at the time and give them a fun ceremony in their garden. Cake, finger food, champagne/cava/prosecco and music. Perhaps even dress OTT. Make it a day to remember.

My son and fiancée had the legal marriage booked for two weeks time and the wedding celebration (no licence to get legally married at the venue) for a few days after. It’s all cancelled and I’m told that you aren’t able to get married legally (or they would have done because that’s all they really want?). My heart is going out to them as this has followed in from an awful and tragic year for them, in another context. Personally, I have to say that I don’t feel it’s a date to celebrate, as non of it has been possible....but I also want them to know we are thinking of them. We are both regularly use Facebook so as trivial as it sounds, I’m thinking a message in there saying we are raising a glass to them at the time, could be appropriate. They hate a lot of fuss and I’m deliberating on the idea of sending champagne...although they’ll drink it, I can’t imagine them really celebrating anything as they just feel frustrated (and worried about losing so much money...there was also a honeymoon booked ...).?Any suggestions as with the original poster, would be gratefully received!

*sorry for the typing errors! Feeling emotional! Could also have added, they really planned to marry a few years ago but life has been hard for them in one way and another?-we really thought their time had come this year....feeling so sad for them...