I’m not even sure what to do or just live with this.
My ex who I was with for 20 years is diagnosed narcissist. He abused me during our marriage. We have 3 children. He’s spent the better part of 10 years turning my oldest against me. He’s done this by telling lies and making fun of me with her. He used to tell her the reason I grounded her (for sneaking out at night) was because I didn’t love her. He’s showered her with gifts and affection. At this point my oldest lives with her dad and she’s a single mom. He’s taking advantage of her by making her pay 1/2 on a very large mortgage of a house his mom bought.
Our other kids have been spared somewhat they were much too young to know what it was like to live with us when we were married.
The problem I have is they (my ex and oldest) constantly make fun of me in front of the younger 2. They recently said I was stupid because we are getting COVID vaccinations. They tell the youngest that I am dumb stupid and a terrible mom. My youngest tell me this. Because it hurts their feelings and they asked me about things that are lies told to them.
I’ve kept my mouth shut because the last time I confronted my ex about calling me a stupid bitch to our oldest, he told me to F$&@ off and he’d say whatever he wanted.
It’s just sad to me because I love my oldest so much and I help her out with anything she asks but she participates in the trash talk of me with her dad. Im concerned about the harm it’s doing to the youngest 2 as well.
I’d like to approach the situation but I’m at a loss what to do.
Do you still wear you original wedding and engagement ring