We had a Direct funeral for MIL due to Covid restrictions in early 2020! MrOops
and his siblings were all fine with it, (I wasn’t, but it wasn’t my call) but her Grandchildren werent, as the ashes still haven’t been scattered they are getting more upset about it.
However, as my sister in law did all of the running around for her parents whilst they were alive we have conceded that it’s up to her to have a ‘scattering ashes ‘ ceremony when she feels happy about it.
MrOops and I have said we also want a direct funeral, but from the looks that passed between our daughters I would say they aren’t happy about it, so we are going to leave it up to them.
We won’t be here and I don’t think it gives closure, having said that I went to my parents funeral, I wouldn’t have been comfortable for them to have a direct funeral.
So
I am conflicted!