Thanks for your input, my daughter is 33 and has wanted a steady relationship and family for a while now,she met and became v serious with her partner v quickly and announced their pregnancy within months of meeting. They were both very happy. She was still living with me at that time,so they finally moved in together 2 months ago,he was dragging his heels a bit,seemed he wanted her to move in with his family to save money and because he feels responsible for his mum (widowed) but still active,young and able.
He seems a bit anxious and a worrier whereas my daughter is v independent but a softie too.
They've had a LOT of problems since moving in and she had confided in me,it broke my heart to see her so vulnerable and upset. Her partner hasn't made any effort with me or the rest of our family. Sorry I'm venting too much, bottom line is ... their situation is triggering all sorts of worries and panic attacks in me, she confides in me... I worry... they make up... I resent him for not being more supportive and then my daughter gets defensive if I say anything . What do you Grans do to keep sane and be supportive but not intrusive ? thank you in advance x