M0nica
*Msida*, DH is still with me, ut it is something I have contemplated.
I wanted to keep my maiden name when I got married, but in 1968, it was beyond the pale. I was told, erroneously, that the law required me to have my married name on my passport and I could not have a bank account in my maiden name. In the end I gave up, but I have often thought about it since and DDiL has kept her maiden name and I am deeply envious.
Same here, DIL included. I think I knew I could keep my maiden name, and basically wanted to, but in the end I took the easy option. My maiden name was very hard to spell and pronounce, and at first it was such a relief to be able to give my name and not have to explain it. Now, though, I would love to have my unusual name back. My husband died so long ago that I just don’t feel as if I belong to his family, so I feel I have the wrong name.
The more I think about it, the more it seems ridiculously outdated to take the husband’s name. I was quite shocked when my nephew’s wife’s took his.