Well, I'm just checking back in to see what time I posted the link, because straight afterwards I took DH to the bathroom and persuaded him to try having a bath (our shower is broken and I doubt the plumber will appear before Christmas). So he got in and sat down without too much difficulty. I washed his hair and then his body and feet. He said it was lovely and would just soak for five minutes - so far so good.
Then I tried to get him out. He would not co-operate or follow my instructions. Deaf as a post as of course hearing aids were out for bathing. Everytime I pushed or pulled he pushed or pulled in the opposite direction. He kept begging me to stop as I was hurting his weak arm, groaning and complaining that he was cold. Finally I threatened to call out the MECS people or fire brigade and he began to cooperate, lifting his bum while I pushed cushions, towels etc, under until he was level with the side of the bath, got his legs out and with one long pull 13st Man was upright and out.
Is he grateful? Not a bit of it. Blames me for subjecting him to the ordeal. It was easy to promise NEVER AGAIN.
just to acknowledge that what you are doing is worth appreciation.