I am sort of a member. But I just don't really feel that I am old enough for my group just yet. I have six friends in my village who are all in their fifties, we all joined together in January, but the age gap between us and the other members is huge. We are used to receiving notifications by email and having a website, I suggested starting one up as many in our area have one, but they aren't interested, and I find that I often forget to go on trips because I am reminded by a friend too late and have already arranged something else. I put everything in an online calendar, I no longer use pen and paper and they find me/us as weird as I find them. We can be listening to a fascinating speaker (they are very good at finding speakers) and sheets upon sheets of paper will be passing around for us to read/sign/inwardly digest. I try to make notes but can never read my writing afterwards, and being in a rural area and no wifi in the village hall...
When Jam and Jerusalem came out, everyone said that it was a clichéd view of village life. Well, those people have obviously never been to mine. Our chairman is just like the one in that series, and at Easter I was paired up for an Easter quiz with our very own equivalent of the Dawn French character. It was the hardest, longest evening I have had to suffer for a very long time, and I felt really mean for having found it such an ordeal, although the lady concerned seemed more than happy.
If you have the time to devote to helping out, and can attend regularly then it helps, but having family still at home hasn't been very helpful. It's amazing what they get up to though.
Don't eat before you go, would be my advice. The 'snacks' with tea and coffee are vast. My turn in October, in partnership with a rather forbidding lady who is apparently an extremely good baker.