Today should have been a special day

Thinking of you

Why wouldn't you remember a wonderful day? There are always good things to remember, aren't there, even when things go wrong. Chin up. Be kind to yourself today, maybe something to distract you later, can you spend time with family or friends? If not it's OK to just be as you are today.

Its nice to have memories of a happy day .
This year would be my Golden wedding to my first husband we divorced after 21yrs and he passed away a couple of years ago but I know my eldest daughter will remember the date.
Enjoy your happy life Grannyben.

I mentioned today to my mum last week. This morning she rang just to see if I fancied a bit of shopping and lunch. Think I'm going to have a big piece of chocolate cake, the diet can start again tomorrow

It was when we reached the silver wedding milestone and decided that we didn't choose to celebrate, that we realised it was time to part. By that time it really wasn't a special day.
More than 20 years later, both having moved on, we're quite good friends.
We've helped to plan weddings and shared DGCs, birthdays and Christenings.
He and his wife host a family party on Boxing Day.
We've shared meals and theatre trips along with family members.
Be kind to yourself and give yourself time - it's still early days.

Life goes on grannyben, but I understand your feelings.
As my mum used to say to me, "count your blessings."

Grannyben for you. Last New Year's Eve would have been my golden anniversary but we divorced many years ago. For some reason this year it affected me more than any other. However, the following day it was all in the past, and I was able to live for today and tomorrow again, instead of yesterday.

Personally have never stayed married long enough to reach any significant anniversary

This happens when there is a special date. Today is my mother's birthday but also the anniversary of my husbands death ,makes for a day of happy memories and much sadness .

Thank you all so much. The moment I woke up I knew I was going to turn to Gn today. Grannylyn, you have made me smile. Anniebach, for you also, I will be thinking of you.

Annie what a mixed day. Thinking of you ((hugs))

Grannyben, those thoughts of what might have been, they pass with the day, look forward , you never know who will walk into your life

Divorce is hard even if you are the one who wanted the divorce. It is normal to grieve and today is one of those days for you Annie grieve, remember, smile and shed a tear if you need to. It is spring tomorrow

Having read this I have worked out that I was married 50 years ago on March 4th. I hadn't given it a thought! We divorced 18 years ago and I haven't felt the need of another partner since.
Grannyben, I hope that like me you will be able to make a better life than before. Happiness doesn't necessarily depend on a man!

...dont look back..youre not going that way..?

Your happy memories should always be cherished .
They are part of the tapestry of your life,
for Grannyben and Annie
Also those with bitter Sweet anniversaries

Hope today has been special in a different way for you. Spoil yourself!

My ex husband and I are now friends, on the date of what would have been our 35th Wedding Anniversary, we wished each other a Happy ''Non Wedding Anniversary''.

Its sad and I am not making light of anyone's pain or loss, including my own.

But its an achievement we can now talk about it.

Grannyben - sorry for your loss and hoping thoughts of happy memories fill today

Later this year would have been my 40th wedding anniversary - we made it to 25 years and parted, reasonably amicably. We are now reasonably good friends.

for those who find these days especially painful. For me the day will be a bit 'retrospective' but do know it was for the best.

Regardless of: age is just a number; it's just another day; look to the future, etc., particular dates do hit home.

grannylyn, ? me neither!!

sue1169, what a profound and true saying, never heard it before, but it will become my mantra from now on, thank you.

Well, that's another milestone come and gone! It hasn't been a bad day and now, tucked up in bed, is my grandson. In the morning, when he wakes, we will have a lovely snuggle then our breakfast together.

Every evening I have a read of the latest posts on Gn, you never fail to offer support and advice. Thank you all

Keep the good memories, Grannyben, reflect on the milestone day, then move on and enjoy your life and children, grandchildren, friends.
Today ( actually the 29th) is the 5th anniversary of a dear friend's death in 2012 at age 53. We mark the day, think of her with a smile, and make sure we remain in contact with her two beautiful children.

I'm glad the day ended on a happier note for you. There nothing like a cuddle with a wee one to make the world feel a warmer and happier place