"Thank you" would be nice, it's not too much trouble!(whinge alert)?

Stop cooking - or just serve cheese and onion sandwiches and when he asks why just say 'when you say thanks for what I'm cooking, I'll cook more"

Just don’t do it then.
Hopefully he will get the message.

Yes, but Newatthis I have to do something with all the stuff he brings home! And besides I'm quite enjoying having more time to do some "proper" cooking!

Just a bit of appreciation would be good..............

As they’d say on Mumsnet, LTB! Alternatively, just keeeel him! No jury (of gransnetters) would convict.

I know how you feel. Yesterday DH went out for the first time for emergency chocolate for himself. Up to now I've had to do the huge weekly shops. On his return he surprised me with a box of chocs. I had asked for one but was surprised he'd actually got me one!
Still no actual thanks though. ?

I blame the parents.....

Yeah but we are the parents of the next generation yet they don't always act, when married, as they did at home under the all-seeing, all-hearing eyes and ears of mother ???

Tell him then.

Suedonim I couldn't possibly LTB! I've only just (after 19 years) got him to know how I like my tea!

Putting his washing in the laundry basket might take a tad longer............

I’ve got the opposite problem! My DH actually likes to do a bit of cooking. So far, so good.

But when I thank him and say something like ooooh this is delicious ( even though it may not be - but you’ve got to keep giving encouragement haven’t you. And I was bought up to be polite ) he always says he wishes I didn’t feel the need to comment on the food!

Honestly, you just can’t win.

Stop cooking for him.
If he doesnt say thank you for laundry, or whatever you do for him, just stop.

I had to teach my dh I wasn't the family's servant.
"But my mom does it all the timeeeee"
One look stopped him on his tracks and now he knows how much work it takes to keep up with the house and have food ready.

Gabriella according to Mr P, his mother was an awful cook!

Hithere we've been together since 2001, perhaps too late to get him to thank me for doing the washing?

Stop it doing that for him then.
Seriously, it is not rocket science.

You have the power to change your present, not the amount of years you have been together.

Sounds like he’s a long term project, then, Phoenix. Or like I said, you could keeel him and start afresh.

Hithere it doesn't always work like that.......

I haven't cooked or shopped for food for eons, but if I were ever not to say thank you, even for a cup of tea I would wait a
loooong time for the next meal. Very hurtful of your husband.

Phoenix
Keep whining and ranting then while accepting he doesnt appreciate you.

Why do you post then? Sympathy pats on your back is all you need to continue laying flatter?

Hithere, you just don't get it, do you? Sigh.

A bit harsh Hithere. L

My husband always thanks me for meals even it they are mediocre (Im not a great cook) but he never cooks or washes up. I know which Id prefer! I suppose we have to be grateful for what we've got (if we generally get on that is!)

If I don't get a Thank You from DH (I usually do) I ask, in an exaggerated Fred Dibnah voice, 'Did tha like that?'

Actually, silverlining48 I completely agree!

pollyperkins fair point!

Show me someone who says they have a "perfect" relationship, and I'll show you either a deluded person or ..........?

merlot