Sorry need to vent

I'm not surprised you wanted to get that off your chest ninathenan, I'd be pretty angry too.

Very thoughtless behaviour on fathers part.

DD should probably have sorted it herself. I would have given him a chance to get it done, but would have stepped in ages ago when it was obvious he hadn’t bothered.

Hindsight being a wonderful thing of course.

It is such a difficult position for your daughter to have been put in. If it was down to him, then she was damned if she asked him what he had done. I can imagine accusations of nagging. And now she's stuck in a difficult situation. I take it, it wouldn't go down well if she tried to get a place closer?

Why am I not surprised nina.

As the mother I'd contact the local education authority to see what might be done. They will maybe have a better suggestion - she should point out that the travel for the child is excessive.
They may go for that...

I would have been reluctant to let someone else organise this without my input but obviously she felt he was reliable so now is in a mess.

I'd go along with what NotSpaghetti said.

Calendargirl DD really wanted to do it herself ad told him she would but father insisted he was doing it. He is such a control freak she was scared of losing contact as he has done this in the past for months at a time when "she has gone behind his back"

She was scared to rock the boat. ( see my previous post) Its his way or no way. He doesn't even answer her greeting when she drops the GC back to him. They just about communicate via e-mail.

Exactly kitty ?

There will be a route to challenge schools allocated. It’s years since I did this but the challenge has to be in the best interests of the child.

She needs to think of all the ways a more local school is best.

ninathenana

Calendargirl DD really wanted to do it herself ad told him she would but father insisted he was doing it. He is such a control freak she was scared of losing contact as he has done this in the past for months at a time when "she has gone behind his back"

I can see how difficult it must have been for her, not wanting to rock the boat and make things worse, but wanting to sort it herself.

How maddening.

ninathenana

Calendargirl DD really wanted to do it herself ad told him she would but father insisted he was doing it. He is such a control freak she was scared of losing contact as he has done this in the past for months at a time when "she has gone behind his back"

Lose contact with the children?

That is probably what nina meant. I think that has happened before.

Hi all,
I'm new here.
My other half made reference the other evening to his being busy with My grandson.
Really left me feeling not ok with the comment,
When I addressed the incident, his reply was its true its your daughter's son.
Feeling frustrated & let down is putting it mildly, especially when we have taken this little monkey on fulltime for a spell while my daughter figures her life out..
Found this site while looking for support.
Thanks for listening ❤

Summerlove yes he denied her contact with the children because she couldn't be trusted

Welcome Amma11 ... If you put your post on a new thread, you will probably get more response.

That sounds awful for DD ninathenana

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It's ok...
Think I just needed to vent get it off my chest,
Thank you Namsnanny for responding ? ?

ninathenana, you mention the older GS could have gone to the senior site round the corner. Does this mean he is (or hopefully will be) at senior school? If so, surely he can go by himself? Or maybe you mean Junior school? I know some areas have separate infant and junior schools...

GrandmaKT
Yes, he is 11 and starting senior school. If he attends the school 30min drive from his father's he would have a bus ride to the train station and then the train. A bit much for an 11 y.o. by himself as he knows nobody to go with.
If his father had secured him a place at the school near his brother's primary, then yes he could have walked himself there.

What a pain! I presume they have appealed to the school they want? Having said that, an 11 year old should be capable of that journey and I'm sure he'll meet up with others soon enough.