A very nasty surprise - be ready if it happens to you

That’s really horrible Apple and bound to leave anyone feeling upset and wondering if the caller knows them.As you say, likely to be somebody just ringing local numbers and waiting for a woman to answer.?

I experienced something much the same, many years ago. A man called, telling me my DH had been seeing someone else. He gave some details, and it caused huge problems between myself and DH, who denied it.
A few months later, the man was arrested for this. He had been calling lots of women in the same area. It was all horrible.

How awful for you Applegran, sending kind thoughts , there are some truly sick people in the world

I had a couple of nasty calls a very long time ago.

In one they were asking questions about, I thought, my Bro-in-law who was living with us. The questions seemed to relate to work and, as he'd just been for an interview, I started to answer them. After a while they seemed to go off the point and to get more personal to me so I stopped answering, getting a mouthful of abuse as a result.

The second purported to come from the head/deputy head of my son's school, saying that he'd had an accident. I don't know what they were going to ask but, since I'd collected him and brought him home for his lunch, it was clearly a hoax and again I got abuse.

It's not at all nice, Applegran but, as you suggested, more often than not these people don't know you. The calls are just as much as scam as the ones, e.g., that tell there's a problem with your internet. If you listen to what's actually said it's convincing but not quite accurate.

It's an extremely unpleasant thing to happen Applegran. Our local community paper had a warning about a couple of years ago as it was happening in my area. The advice was the same as yours, put the phone down for a few minutes but don't hang up. Come back and hang up a few minutes later.
That's truly horrible too Antonio. To create such suspicion and attempt to cause antagonism between couples is really low. I'm glad the man was caught!
Many years ago I had a very similar experience to you Applegran. It was horrible because I was waiting for a very important phonecall at the time so I kept picking up the phone in case it was the caller I was waiting for. The call I was waiting for never came as the despicable individual was so persistent it was like a denial of service. Like you though I knew what he was saying, that he was watching etc. was untrue because they were impossibilities. In the end a whistle was deployed! It didn't happen again.

Have a police type whistle close to the phone to use whenever you get such a call. It'll hurt their ears, if nothing else.

CherryCezzy Apologies for repeating what you said. I hit the send button just as I read your final sentence.

No worries Dinahmo, better two (or more) people say it than one ☺️ It works.

We had a neighbour who was an ‘ever so prim and proper’ elderly maiden lady. She had a call from someone asking if she wanted to ‘ see his c*ck’. She was quite unfazed, and replied, “ Why, is yours different from everybody else’s?”

Applegran, I don’t mean to downplay your experience, and it’s good of you to share it to warn others.

When I was a young mum I had a ‘dirty phone call’. I was so shocked that I actually said “Pardon???” He repeated what he had said and I put the phone down horrified. Luckily it never happened again.

Daddima good for her!

An audiologist explained to me that using a whistle down the phone doesn't work as the frequency just doesn't transmit at the volume required.

Try googling 'Who called me'. May or may not help in these cases but is useful in flagging up suspected scam or cold calls.

Had the odd one when we had a house phone, went only mobile about ten years ago and none. It’s very unsettling, particularly if you’re on your own.

I had a phone call during the night and was told there was a man with a gun outside and stay away from windows 'police are on way' really scary. After 10 minutes I rang the police and of course I wasn't the only one to have rung them after getting this call. Police said a person rings any area code then any random numbers and connect with someone. they call it 'fun'.

another time, someone rapped on the front door in the night!
I went down and called out sternly 'who is it' and was asked if it was some random address. I said no and they ran off! I rang the police who came out straight away. They said it was someone checking if anyone was in prior to breaking in! I left lights on all night downstairs from then on and now live in a flat!

Jane10, I'm not disputing an audiologist, perhaps on volume, but the whistle worked for me. I'm glad it did.

A couple of years ago, my son had several very strange calls from the same number...it kept coming up on caller display. The caller would go from rambling to aggressive in the space of a few minutes.
My son spoke to the Police about it, a few days later he had a call from Police in another part of the country who thanked him for the report. The caller had been traced and was actually admitted to hospital in a severe mental health crisis.

Some years ago, when I lived alone, I received a call on my mobile. It was some bloke asking why I didn't turn up to meet him as arranged the previous evening! Well, the previous evening I was actually at work so couldn't have met up with anyone so I told him that he had the wrong number. I expected him to say "oh, ok, sorry I bothered you" . However, he was adamant that he had the right number and read my number out correctly. Again, I insisted he was wrong and I promptly cut the call. Moments later he called again and started getting a bit narked, so I cut the call again. Yes, you've guessed it, he called again so I hastily grabbed my personal alarm, answered the call and then immediately set the alarm off.........he didn't call again! Best £10 I have ever spent!

I had a dirty phone call once. I put the phone down but still found it upsetting. Luckily they never called again.

As lemsip has suggested these idiots just call random numbers when they're bored.

"Whocalledme" won't help if they remember to withhold their number.

If someone told me they could see me inside the house I'd challenge them to say what I'm wearing. If there was silence or they declined I'd tell them that's because they can't see me.

If someone told me they knew where I lived I would challenge them to tell me where.

I am sure they'd ring off. They don't expect challenges, just someone gasping with fear.

I answered the phone and a man asked if he could have a pair of my pants. I whispered to my husband and he took the phone and said ‘you can have a pair of mine if you want’.

How horrid for you. I had a similar call and since then I've never answered the phone to anyone unless I recognise the name on the screen because it's someone in my phone's address book. Very occasionally 'Private number' turns out to be the library or a physio ringing me but they always leave messages.

The best advice is to put the phone down and walk away. I would never engage with anyone in these circumstances.

with my current landline, i have been saved from all these unwanted calls.
i think it is BT call guardian and intercepts unknown numbers, so they have to state their business and it then calls me with what they said and i can choose to take the call, or send to voicemail, or block the number.
it was money well spent, and not very expensive.

I once had a nasty sexual call I was actually in bed with my live in partner it was quite a nasty suggestive call and unfortunately there was nothing I could say to my partner that could make him believe it was absolutely nothing to do with me he was convinced I was having an affair
We split up some years later but I expect to this day he thinks it was me betraying him