I am just wrecked

Luckygirl … I hope you don't mind me contributing, as I know you have lots of people who know you well on gn.

Frankly, go with the flow. Don't stress yourself about feeling sad or tired.

I would encourage you to sleep when ever you want to. Or do what ever you want to, if you were my sister.

Take care

You have so much to adjust to, take each hour as it comes if you can.

It will take time, take care.

xxx

Oh dear. I'm so sorry to hear this. I don't suppose it helps that you already know this is a sort of backlash /reaction to the desperately stressful time you've had with your DH.
I'm sure that wiser and more experienced Grans will have some suggestions for you but maybe a tincture of time and some TLC would help. I hope you're feeling a bit brighter soon. You know that a lot of us here care about you ?

The stress you suffered while you were looking after your husband at home will of had more of an effect on you than you realised at the time. Allow yourself time to recover, knowing he is happy (good to hear) will help to some degree. It's only been a few weeks, don't push yourself too much.

If only the powers that be would get their act together and finally sort out finance etc you would be able to fully relax.

Luckygirlwe underestimate the physical toll that emotional stress and anxiety can have.

You must try and give yourself time to adjust; it will take time to get used to your DH not being there with you.

I remember how trying it was when my step dad had to go into a nursing home full time, sorting out the financial responsibilities but you'll get there in the end.

I agree with Namsnanny "go with the flow". If you need to sleep; sleep. If you need to cry; cry. There's no right or wrong or rule book.

Look after yourself.

Just to add, I appreciate that there will be days when even getting up, let alone leaving the house will be tough, if you do have a green space, a park , woods, forest within reasonable distance, go there, walk and howl, shout, scream at the sky/trees whatever, or just sit and breathe, you never know, it could give you a moment's relief.

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Lucky
As a Dr once said to me: your tank is empty. You have been running on adrenaline. The only cure is rest
Just the same as you. Your tank is empty ? There is no magic potion, just rest. Please take care of yourself, you have managed the unimaginable for so long it's no wonder you feel as you do. ??

Luckygirl

It all must indeed have been one hell of a shock to your system Luckygirl. You have been amazing you know.

I would say, don't fight the feeling of exhaustion now. Just go with it for a while. Get as much rest as you possibly can. Yes, getting out is good, but don't push yourself too much. Just wait awhile for it to pass.

Just quietly try to look after you now.

All the very best to you.

You have been under tremendous stress but now your DH is comfortably settled, happy and being well cared for.

Being under constant stress is exhausting but at the time you don't give in to the exhaustion - now you can and your body is reacting to it. Now is the time to take care of yourself

Luckygirl - Petra is right, I am sure. You have been keeping going on adrenaline and now your body and mind need rest and time to catch up. It is to be expected, so please don't beat yourself up about it - you have done more than most people could have managed. Be kind to yourself. And if anyone else can help you, then let them be kind to you too. But above all, be kind to yourself. You need it, and you deserve it.

Oh Lucky - what a heartfelt, honest and open post, what a courageous woman you are.

As others have said and, as I'm sure you know in your logical brain, chronic, long term stress is exhausting. When your husband was at home you somehow kept going because you just had to. Other women, mothers, wives, daughters will identify with this.
Please be tender with yourself, try to rest. Use the meds your GP gives you and find whatever helps you now. It may be relaxation on your iPad. I don't know, you'll have an idea what's helped you in the past, try and locate that and do please look after yourself x

Oh, Lucky! The phrase about running on adrenaline is bang on. Sending a warm virtual hug xx

I really feel for you. Like others have said this is a physical and mental reaction to all the stress and worry you have suffered.

Be kind to yourself. Take your time and rest, eat well and let your body and mind settle. You have done everything you possibly could and now is the time to put yourself first.

Oh Luckygirl I don't know you but I feel for you. It's a very sad hard time for you. You've done your very best. Be kind and gentle to yourself. And rest now. You need it.

Go gently lucky, spot on comments about running on adrenalin and now your body is reacting to, or if you like withdrawing from, seeing your husband settled and happy. There is still stress, more assessments but for now he is safe and happy and you are left adjusting. Rest when you need to, just be as you are and suspend all self expectations for now while you heal. If you can let the family look after you. Sending love and a hug.

Take care of yourself, Lucky. It's bound to take a while to come down from pushing yourself so hard.

Luckygirl, I have followed your journey on GN and have so much admiration for you.
I can only echo what others have said.

I think this slightly delayed reaction is entirely to be expected. My God you've been through the mill the last few months Lucky! So now your body is screaming out for some respite and you have to give in to it.

So what if you spend all day in bed sometimes? If it's what you need, then just go with the flow and let yourself gently heal. It will take time, but you will get better as long as you don't fight it. and (((hugs)))

Luckygirl If you feel like crying cry, if you want to stay in bed then stay in bed.

Your body and mind have been holding everything together, now they need to rest and recover. ????

Oh bless you Luckygirl you must be so weary. You need to rest, life’s way of replenishing both mind and body. x

Agree with others, you must be absolutely exhausted. Sending kind thoughts to you