Being British and non confrontational

CF?

Con Frontational?

cheeky plucker, or its cognate, cheeky pluckery.
or what rhymes to fit the letter.

NDN?

next door neighbour

Cheeky f**ker, isn’t it? Popularly used on MN. The general noun for such behaviour is CFery.

the context makes it possible to guess the meaning of most abbreviations.
that's how i've got them; it's just like textual criticism for beginners.
my technique, keep reading and eventually things will begin to make more sense. be patient. persist.

Witzend

Cheeky f**ker, isn’t it? Popularly used on MN. The general noun for such behaviour is CFery.

that's what i said. sigh.
84F in here. curtains closed. water and crisps.

I have two friends (both women and in their 70s) who dislike confrontation. I am afraid their families walk all over them as if they were doormats.

I can’t read this shorthand CF Cystic Fibrosis
NDN no disrespect to nuns
SCBA (sorry can’t be arsed) prefer to read it in English doesn’t take any longer to write

My next door neighbour constantly complains about the house, parking issues, state of garden etc with her neighbours on the other side of her. She flatly refuses to actually speak to them about any of it and so nothing ever gets resolved and she continues to feel aggrieved. I don't have this problem.

Being confrontational and standing your ground on something you feel strongly about, are not the same. It's possible to stand up for what you believe in and/or for your rights, without being aggressive, hostile and/or argumentative.

I’m not good at confrontation. I’m a bit of a people pleaser I suppose. Does that make me ‘kind’ or ‘weak’? We are what we are. I would absolutely hate to fly off the handle at anyone and see them embarrassed . I’m very aware of people’s feelings. People are more important than ‘things’.

What is it about British people that they are so afraid to stand their ground?

This could never describe Himself.
We are complete opposites. Yin & yang if you like.

Urmst, i think if you behave the way you wish to, then that is your choice and living by your values.
which is good.
but i regret, and go over, pointlessly, so many situations where i wished i had acted differently, been more assertive, decisive, or simply walked.

BlueBelle

I can’t read this shorthand CF Cystic Fibrosis
NDN no disrespect to nuns
SCBA (sorry can’t be arsed) prefer to read it in English doesn’t take any longer to write

Absolutely!!!!!

Neither of us are "afraid to stand ground" - we merely state our preferences in a polite manner. If others ignore us we go along our way, no issues.

I wouldnt say confrontational as that would imply anger, therefore out of control. But I can be assertive if I feel it’s deserved, with politeness; calmly and logically.

Confrontational has got absolutely nothing with being assertive and stating what you need/want!

Please feel free to let me know what I’ve said is wrong Madgran?

welbeck

Witzend

Cheeky f**ker, isn’t it? Popularly used on MN. The general noun for such behaviour is CFery.

that's what i said. sigh.
84F in here. curtains closed. water and crisps.

Sorry, welbeck - a case of cross-posting.

Being assertive is not confrontational, no need for “confronting”, just asking reasonably for what you want. Life is short, do unto others………..
I find it odd when people take delight in getting the better of others.

Crossed post madgran and Jaxjacky I agree with both of you.

It depends sometimes I just cant be bothered to have a row, it's such an effort