Hello all, this is my first post and I am so glad I found this site. Just looking for support really. My son married his wife about 3 years ago and since then everything has started to go downhill to the stage where now we are no longer in contact only with his wife when we arrange to see our two grand daughters ages 5 and 3. The contact is about the arrangement and nothing else. Things seemed to be ok until they got married. However, since they married we’ve never been allowed to visit without making an appointment, and if we have just popped by, we’ve been kept on the doorstep and never been invited in. We were not allowed to be part of their wedding. We were invited just as any other guest but were not treated as the grooms parents. Despite me asking my son in the past on so many many occasions what it is we’ve done wrong, he has always dismissed our estrangement as though its all in our heads. When we have said we never see you anymore, he has just said he is too busy. My husband spent over a year a couple of years ago working on their house for them, building an extension and rooms in the roof, not for payment, he would never have expected payment. And then shortly after just this gradual relationship decline. Seeing us less and less with no explanation. Our son married into money and is now a fairly wealthy young man. He has siblings who he no longer has contact with either. His choice not theirs. There seems to be no real rhyme nor reason for our estrangement except one thing. We moved house when all this started to happen. We downsized and I can only suspect that my son and his wife expected to receive some money from our equity which didn’t happen. I think they suspect that our other children benefited from our equity and not them. There doesn’t seem to be any other explanation. Money is very important to my sons wife, very important and she always wants to be seen as a wealthy young lady. She has no interest in mixing with people from what she sees as a lower class to her and maybe, just maybe that’s what she sees our side of the family as, despite us being professional people (we are nowhere near as wealthy as her family's side). We are down to earth, don’t mind getting our hands dirty type of people. I hate what has happened between us all but am trying to learn to accept it but I am seriously considering rewriting my will and not including them in it. They have made it perfectly clear they do not want a relationship with us, any of us. I suppose I should be grateful that we still see our grand daughters although if I am being honest, even this seems to be getting less and less. Has anyone else been in a similar situation and if so, any advice would be gratefully received.
Good Morning Wednesday 24 April 2024