theworriedwell
Just to add I think my late MILs situation was linked to her being widowed very young and making my DH the reason for living. Too much of a burden for a little boy but I think it is an easy trap to fall into. His way of dealing with it was to be a bit ruthless if she overstepped the mark, his view was if she got away with anything she would just go further next time. It wasn't easy for either of them.
I think your husband sounds like a strong man and you are a strong woman who doesn't apologise for having her own thoughts and opinions.
I am going to learn from you