Welcome to GN, choosetolovelife. You certainly won’t feel isolated here. I came here a few years ago when I was on the brink of estrangement due to An extremely difficult middle son, and an even more difficult d.i.l. The nastiest things were said to me….started with the the silliest of arguments. But, they allowed me to see the grandchildren. I used to visit for an hour every week/fortnight. Son and wife would go upstairs while I spent an hour with the grandchildren. Things are easier now, but certainly not 100%. I am divorced. My ex-husband and his wife seem to get more visits than I do. She is called “Nanny” just like me. I wish they had called her “grandma” or “Nana”. Just writing about it hurts me but perhaps I am just too sensitive.
I am sorry you are in this position. You will have lots of support. There are some very kind and caring grandparents here. Take care