There’s a duty I think towards the people that raised you. As the late Queen said, recollections can vary. This for many people now is an outdated notion, a lot of people, me included, think we do owe people and need to see that they are cared for in old age. The fact that we don’t get on or have mis matched expectations doesn’t come into it. You look after family. I have a really awful neighbour, going senile now, no family and gets on with no one, I check he’s alright, do the odd tasks for him, it doesn’t cost me anything, I don’t get into conversation really, he doesn’t get around well and is a sad figure, the fact that he was a bit of a tyrant and very selfish, doesn’t alter the fact that he’s old and vulnerable, for me as a Christian I could do no other. I’m not a do gooder.