Last night I had a dream

No but I do wake myself up talking. I can only assume I have been having a conversation with some out loud and it wakes me up. I do cry in my sleep or did as my husband used to wake me up to check on me. May still do it but I am on my own .

Unfortunately our estranged children have amnesia when it comes to happy times spent with us. My son forgets we had a lovely time on my birthday then 4 days later that email .

Yes, now and then I do.
Seems so real that when you wake it’s a big disappointment.☹️

Now and again I have a panic dream.
Usually I’ve lost one of the children. I wake up shouting their name!

Whiff

No but I do wake myself up talking. I can only assume I have been having a conversation with some out loud and it wakes me up. I do cry in my sleep or did as my husband used to wake me up to check on me. May still do it but I am on my own .

Unfortunately our estranged children have amnesia when it comes to happy times spent with us. My son forgets we had a lovely time on my birthday then 4 days later that email .

Aww Whiff! It's so sad. The last time we were allowed to visit my son's home was Easter last year, but by the evening after we had gone home he was posting vile things online. I thought the visit had gone well and we only stayed a few hours, so as to not outstay our welcome.

I have woken myself up snoring!

Honestly what’s with all these ungrateful adult children?!
Wonder how they’ll like it if their kids do the same in the future?
I don’t think I could ever visit again OnwardsAnd Upwards if that was me.
Unless you know they have mental health problems anyway.

Last night I had a vivid dream in which I was playing a tennis match at Wimbledon and losing badly (I can't play tennis). I woke up with a strong feeling of embarrassment and failure.
I can usually attribute my dreams to something current in my life. I'm sure this one's the result of receiving Christmas round robin letters describing the fabulous achievements of other people and their offspring! ☹️

I've had dreams like that too Onward and for a few moments after waking up have actually forgotten that we are now estranged. Remembering is like having your heart ripped out all over again.

But you're right, it is validating because it reminds us how we were once close, loved and happy.

Aw so sorry Smileless, so true. Maybe they get dreams too.
I feel its hopeful that Harry admits to feeling loss. Perhaps its good for other young people to see that.

Oreo , he does have MH problems, but its his personality changes since drug use and immense hostility to me that make him feel not safe to be around. I hope some day he will become drug free and not hostile.

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In the early hours of this morning I had a disturbing dream relating to childhood and my screaming woke me up.
It was horrible.

Dreams can be so vivid can't they silverlining. I've had bad dreams in the past and have felt that I was fighting to wake up and so relieved when I did.

Dreams about ES are either when he was primary school age or as an adult. When he's a child I see him, when he's an adult I don't see him but I know instinctively that the man whose face I cannot see is him.

Weird I know .

We've often talked about our ES's amnesia when it comes to all the good things we shared for 27 years Whiff.

Thanks smileless

Doge pity I didn't see your message . As it was deleted can only assume it was a personal attack on someone.

Only just come on the estrangement forum as been busy doing other things.

Smiles yes our children forget all we did . I had a kind loving son for 32 years . I still love the son I knew. No idea who he is now. Only know how cruelly and cowardly he ended our relationship. I had no warning it was going to happen.

When I think how bravely his dad fought to live and his belief that we would be ok after he died because we had eachother and a happy and caring family life. How it would break his dad's heart if he knew how he would turn out. My husband was 47 when he died and our daughter was 20 and son 16. So he can't blame his dad's death on our estrangement as he's been dead 19 years.

But if my son thought he would break me he is sadly mistaken . I have faced and still face worse things than rejection. And will have more things to face in the future as I get older and my disability makes things harder. But I have found ways of doing what I want but my way.

I am lucky I have a loving and caring daughter and her family . Plus other family members and friends.