Ive been on other side of this and as a parent all it does is 'set' you against the grandparent as youre angry theyve taken you to court in the first place! Which does NOT make for an amicable conclusion all round- it makes a parent very resentful of the fact theyre 'being forced' to do this- i split from my ex husband some years ago now,but it was not amicable,and he also had his parents( mostly his mum) nagging him to see my son,but we had moved out of area,(only just over an hour away),and they all kicked up such a fuss,trying to get court to make us 'return' when of course court couldnt do that,in end it was arranged i had to let my ex (& his family,presumably)see him 4 times a yr- my son was 4 and is now 16- and as pointed out it also eats into his time to see other members of our family who live in that area,(my older kids& my own gc) but ive trailed my son over there as often as i can (my ex mostly lived with his parents) MORE than 4 times a yr- and we had no transport) and now hes 16 he hates going- he is cordial with them,NOT loving,as my own gc are with me- (he wont let them hug or kiss him,for example) its like its a duty on his part,that he has to fulfil,its none of my doing it is how he feels,over the yrs ive been more ok with them,as i never said my son could not see his grandparents in the first place,my problem was with my ex(their son) if they had 'let the dust settle' then i would have probably begun to make arrangements for him to see them in the first place,instead they all built up resentment at being forced into a situation which my son didnt need nor want.Hes never going to just want to 'pop over' to see them off his own bat,and hes an adult in two years in the eyes of the law.Is that the kind of relationship you want with your GC unhappy1? I doubt it.Let the dust settle,then maybe you can try get in touch gently with the parent,ask how they ALL are,if theyd be prepared to let you have a short visit etc.or you never know,they might come around before then& approach you? But no- one likes to feel they 'have to' do this.Incidentally my ex has now recently moved a couple of hundred miles away and i still took him to see his Grandparents last wk, but no one mentioned how his dad 'shouldnt have' moved so faraway !