We used to have our only grandson the two days a week my daughter works (and any other time we could wangle it), but he has now started school and we pick him up after school on those two days instead, and get to spend a couple of hours with him then. We have never felt "put upon" or expected anything in return. My daughter appreciates the help and she doesn't take advantage. DH and I have plenty of "us" time. In the holidays, he will stay overnight here, and sometimes we will offer to have him at the weekend to give them a bit of "us" time. My children never got to spend much time with their grandparents - we were frequently out of the country and by the time we had finished travelling around, there were, sadly, no longer any grandparents. As children get older, nanny and grandad come lower down the pecking order in their lives. They have other, more interesting things to do, so I intend to make the most of him before that happens and then accept it gracefully!