Would it upset you

jenny I think I might be being thick, but I'm struggling to get the full gist of your OP.

So sorry if it's me.

Just seen another post from jenny etc, to which I had replied, getting a bit worried!

I was also having a little difficulty what you were saying jenny.

Did you mean - you got to your grandchildren's house late and Oliver was upstairs playing on his XBox. Because you were tired, you waited for Oliver to come down to see you but your husband wanted to get home. Oliver's Dad shouted up the stairs that you were going but Oliver didn't come down to say goodbye??

Children and grandchildren can be a little thoughtless at times. They get so caught up in what they are doing that they forget everything else. I've experienced the same thing myself on occasion and it can be hurtful, but I'm sure they love you and would be sorry if they thought they'd upset you.

If I saw my grandson every Monday, I don't think not seeing him, or his not saying goodbye to me, on one particular Monday would upset me, no.

You're allowed to be tired, jenny.

Perhaps it is being rushed by your husband that has caused the real upset? If so, perhaps you need to stand up to him a bit and refuse to be rushed if there is no real need for rush.

That's kids for you. Don't overthink it they just get engrossed.

My GCs are often occupied as I leave, so I just call goodbye, only sometimes getting an answer. It doesn't bother me in the slightest, that's just kids for you! I would advise you to put this behind you and look forward to next Monday.

jenny maybe, because you were tired you just were a little sensitive.
Kids are like that, I wouldn't worry.

As a family, we are quite in the other camp - arrivals and departures are always marked ( the French are a good example here). We brought our dd up that way and she has carried on with the dgs in the same way - It's never an issue because it's what always happens. But it's the same between the adults if dgs isn't around. Any visitors are actually charmed by dgs' greetings and farewells but its no big deal for him. If I was trying to analyse why we are like this, I would say there are various strands - the example of my French friends when I was at an impressionable age, the acknowledgement of each other and the hug/ kiss that goes with that and the fact that children and adults should sometimes just stop what they are doing and think about what someone else would like. Oh and I'd ban x boxes as well. The problem is when there is a mismatch in expectations.

I am with phoenix, I am also struggling to work out what you are trying to say.

Has it occurred to you, jenny, that, as he was playing on the x-box, he might have been wearing headphones (my GS does) and simply did't hear his dad calling him?

I would of stood at the bottom of the stairs and shouted very loud. I would not let him get away with it. [ sad]

Was I Right to read your message in a foreign accent * jennycokerspaniel *? [ snile)

Sorry if sounded puddled It was his sister who shouted to come down I was tired and my back still iffy They only let him
Xbox for so long Yes I think I was over sensitive and should have gone upstairs before I left He is 8 and growing up fast I knew we had to be home quick OH likes to be off so was cross with him , Will ring as usual tonight as did not get in till late Thanks for listening

Yes I did shout and Mum would have sent him down but all over now and they are coming to stay on Friday love them to bit but missed my cuddle

DGD aged 2 brought my stick, handbag, then opened the front door and announced very firmly ' Graggy going home now in the silver car!'
I wasn't really ready to go, but did as I was told and went!
I'm going up again today to entertain her while her mother (due tomorrow) has a rest for couple of hours.
Just made a banana cake to take up with me!

It became a family joke that when my mother had had enough of visitors she would smile sweetly and say, 'Don't let me keep you'. We must have remarked on it amongst ourselves quite a bit because when DS was about three we had a visit from a new vicar. Conversation ground to a halt and I whispered to DH (in the kitchen) that I wished he'd hurry up and go.

DS marched into the sitting room, planted himself in front of the vicar and said, very politely, 'If grandma was here she'd say, Don't let me keep you.'

My 8-year-old GS is deaf in one ear and has perfected the practice of turning a deaf ear.

smile smile Here I sit all happy with my other love of my life cuddled up on my knee,Penny my little cocker spaniel.

*Merlot, a medical student friend used to stand up and say 'well' as he blew out the little oil stove. It became a family joke for years to come.

I've got this to come soon as X boxes are all the rage with my grandson and his friends. I think that, when they get back from school they can't wait to get on them [it's a bt like me going straight upstairs to the pooter when we've been out to check what's been happening internet wise]. They just suddenly reach a new stage in their development and catch us by surprise. I remember how I felt when the older grandson stopped sitting next to me with his head on my shoulder when I read to him. His mum is going to limit [or try to limit] his X Box use.