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2 year old not talking!

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Speldnan Fri 20-Dec-13 13:23:42

My GS is 2 and doesn't really say any words. He understands everything you say to him and manages to let you know what he wants by pointing grunting etc. He occasionally will say odd words like 'bear' or 'moon' but that's about it! I'm sure there is no problem with his speech, he was 5 weeks prem and very late walking, but wondered if any other grans have GC who don't say much yet!

Kiora Fri 20-Dec-13 13:49:20

Does he snore, have lots of colds if so could be glue ear that can slow speech down, but boys are notoriously slower at talking than girls ( i know we shouldn't generalise but it's true) they catch up fast, once they do start it's like an explosion whoosh it all comes at once. As long as he's making good eye contact, hears the small sounds eg a key in the door, your footsteps as you approach he'll be fine . If there's no improvement by the time he's 2 1/2 I'd pop into your clinic and ask for a referral to speech & language.

Bellasnana Fri 20-Dec-13 13:56:40

Your GS sounds just like my nephew's little boy. He didn't say a word at that age either, and would point and say 'uh uh uh' for everything he wanted. We were all very concerned but he is now 4 and never stops talking. He didn't talk properly until he was 3 though.

annodomini Fri 20-Dec-13 14:22:43

It was thought that one of my GSs had glue ear and he had grommets put in after which his speech improved. However, it was later discovered that he had moderate to severe deafness in one ear and now (8) he wears a hearing aid to school. There is nothing wrong with his speech - he is very articulate.

LizG Fri 20-Dec-13 14:40:06

My now 27 year old didn't walk until 18 months or talk until after she was 2. Everyone (including her sisters) did things for her. She now has a degree (media - lots of talking) and is a PCSO (lots of walking!)

rockgran Fri 20-Dec-13 14:45:48

My friend's little boy didn't talk much even at four so they took him to a speech therapist after which he never shut up. His Dad says he'd like to strangle that speech therapist! tchgrin

Grannyknot Fri 20-Dec-13 14:50:36

My daughter spoke late and never spoke much as a child and still never talks for the sake of talking.

Nelliemoser Fri 20-Dec-13 14:53:33

How old a two year old is he? My DS was obviously understanding speech but did not say very much at all until he was about 2yrs 4mnth.

When the drains got blocked drains around the house. (Three small children in nappies in adjoining houses perhaps the days of nappy liners!) Sewage began rising into our back garden.

What really got DS talking was the drain cleaning lorry sent by the council. It was "The big lorry with a yellow light on top going on off, on off." that set DS off talking. He never looked back! It might be your DGS just hasn't found a need to chat much,[particularly if his mum is good at anticipating his needs.

I don't recommend getting blocked drains just to excite a little boy into chatting about the big lorry.

ninathenana Fri 20-Dec-13 16:09:55

DGS is 21mths and although he constantly makes lots of noises he doesn't form any words at all. He understands and will obey instructions and can communicate to a certain degree with sign language. They have ruled out glue ear and he is being seen by SALT.
He does have medical problems but no one can say why he doesn't talk.

A friends son didn't talk until he was nearly 4 then suddenly he asked "Mummy can I have a drink please" she said she couldn't help crying. When asked why he hadn't spoken before he replied "I didn't want to"
He is now an articulate 20yr old.

Brendawymms Fri 20-Dec-13 16:24:59

Einstein, I have been told but I am sure GN'ers will correct if wrong, was four before he started talking so don't worry.

Elegran Fri 20-Dec-13 17:02:41

Perhaps some children who are late to speak manage perfectly well without and only come to it in their own good time.

A German chap (comedian?) on QI told a German joke about a child who had never spoken for ten years. Then one day at the table, he told his mother "These mashed potaoes are lumpy." His parents were amazed nd delighted, and asked him why he had never spoken before.
"Up until now," he replied, "everything was satisfactory."

That's a bit extreme!

Nelliemoser Fri 20-Dec-13 17:17:36

That post of mine is in the most dreadful style! Apologies! My excuse was I was hurrying to get out for 3:15. tchblush

MargaretX Fri 20-Dec-13 17:19:48

My cousin didn't talk until she was 4. She then went on and showed quite a lot of intelligence and later became a doctor.
I remember as a child that her mother - my aunt- would sit chatting and the subject was always that my cousin didn't/ wouldn't talk.

My GS now 10, spoke at 18 months but has now stopped! You just get grunts from him now......

LizG Fri 20-Dec-13 17:40:34

Margaret tchgrin

Iam64 Fri 20-Dec-13 18:55:04

My youngest said not a word till she could do a sentence, at about 2 1/2. She hasn't stopped talking since

AlieOxon Fri 20-Dec-13 19:42:23

Apparently I did this too!

Mishap Fri 20-Dec-13 19:43:52

My DD1 barely spoke till well after she was 2, and the HV was getting twitchy. But when she did speak, she spoke in sentences - none of this goo-goo stuff for her!

She did the same with reading - appeared to be getting nowhere with it at school, then I went into her room one day and she was lying in bed reading The Wind in the Willows - no problem! She just couldn't be a***d with Janet and John!

Deedaa Fri 20-Dec-13 22:10:12

Although my grandson walked very early and seemed to be very bright he was a late talker. I kept reassuring my daughter that he would never stop once he started - but I didn't expect him to take me so literally! His teacher has said that she has great trouble remembering that he's only seven. She says he is so articulate and has such a wide vocabulary that she automatically treats him as an adult.
His brother has also walked early and at nearly one is babbling away. Whether this means he will be earlier talking remains to be seen.

Humbertbear Sat 21-Dec-13 10:17:17

Speldnan- I could have written the same posting as you. Our two year old GD is having grommets fitted on Monday and may need her adenoids removed as well. She has been diagnosed as having virtually no hearing due to glue ear but has been lip reading and judging situations so no one realised how bad the situation has become. The recent introduction of Makaton signing has helped her to communicate and try to speak. One in five children suffer from glue ear but it is usually not so severe. The consultant was very concerned when he saw her as she is very bright but this is clearly impeding her development. I hope you can get this sorted soon.

whenim64 Sat 21-Dec-13 10:40:13

My two year old granddaughters are very different from each other. They were born 10 weeks early (should really have been two in a couple of weeks) and 50% of preemies have delays in some area of their development. One talks my socks down and the other has no words, just chatter that only she understands. She can do somersaults and is more agile than her sister. As she is assessed as needing to make progress with speech development she has been given a 10 hour place in a nursery where they assist with speech therapy just near home, and as she will blow a gasket if her twin sister is not there, they've given her 10 hours, too!

Flowerofthewest Sat 21-Dec-13 20:47:37

My DGS didn't say a lot until he was almost 3 then the floodgates opened. His mummy did use baby signing with him along with words. He could communicate well but the speech was came like a train when he started. He never stops now. Three years olds from my experience do not speak clearly, that comes with practice and time. Try not to worry.

rosesarered Sat 18-Jan-14 11:05:23

He is only just 2 years old so don't worry [once any deafness has been ruled out] boys are slower than girls to communicate.
Elegran love the German joke!
My own DGS can only say a couple of words [and not very well] at the same age.

TwiceAsNice Sat 18-Jan-14 18:00:46

My middle child who was a boy said virtually nothing until he was over two and a half because his older sister always interpreted for him so he didn,t need to try. When we were on our own I decided to pretend I couldn't,t understand what he wanted and his first sentence was " can I have a drink please" and after that he never shut up.

glammanana Sat 18-Jan-14 18:11:32

When I was taking with my mum one day about my DGS1 chattering away at a very early age she told me about my sister who is 4 years younger than me and the fact that she never spoke until she was 3 1/2 her words where "it was though she had been vacinated with a gramaphone needle" she has not stopped since.

Humbertbear Sat 18-Jan-14 21:34:06

To add to my previous posting: the grommets have made a huge difference to her hearing. The issue now is for her to have loads of speech therapy so she can catch up. The current diagnosis is that she has had glue ear almost from birth and her hearing has been deteriorating all the time.