I fully understand the enormous concerns and safety aspects for any parent and can assure people out there that my job determines an enhanced crb check..just recently completed (1 month old) working with and around children.
I have read the threads that mention you can't just have a grandparent walk into your life and take this role, especially for safety reasons of children, and I actually do agree.
I hesitate though as like many other parents, I have welcomed new friends into my life, surely the same could be said for these new friends , new neighbours and new group members. We don't vet and research every new friend, neighbour etc that comes into their lives..ask for crb checks etc No, we don't, well not all of us do , instead we get to know them. We use our intuition and we keep our wits about us. But we think nothing of becoming good friends with these new strangers and even later on, perhaps our children are asked to call these people aunty or uncle, a name that creates a family trust, not blood related.
A famous saying states we can pick our friends , not our relatimes. Our relations are born to us. We can fall out with a friend through misunderstanding or difference of opinions and all go our separate ways...but when it's immediate family ...it's frowned upon, it's disputed..with family you apologise and move on...but the same reasons that made you upset haven't gone , they're still there, just at the back of your mind..sometimes niggling away..
Don't get me wrong..I'm lucky I have great family and yes we've fallen out at times we all do but personally I can't really judge any single person for a choice or decision they have made in their family life, especially that I may know nothing about and especially without knowing them first.
I think more comforting are offer's of advice if needed..and if you don't know this person remember negative words do hurt.
Adopting a grandparent, daughter, son, mother, father, uncle or aunt is great and could be wonderful to all partie's. Take your time to know someone and ask if you are uncertain...most would be happy to oblige. Xx
Happy New Year Everybody....make it a year to remember.
I do hope many families can be enriched by such an amazing offer.