Sorry to resurrect an old thread but I was thinking today as I am my Grandsons ''kinship'' foster carer I still get the same / similar experiences as regular foster carers re when it is time to hand the child back , yet because he is my Grandson who I love to the moon and back the thought of handing him over and watching him walk away from me with all his toys and things packed after him living with me for 2 years is ripping my heart out right now even though I will still SEE him my home will be EMPTY without him and TOO QUIET without him HIS ROOM will be empty most of the time unless his Mum allows him to stay over and I am worried about his 'care' in my daughter's hands unfortunately if he is returned which is looking likely right now but that worry is an extra burden too
When a foster carer lets go of a child who has lived with them and been a part of their life for many months or years it must be hard to let go but imagine it is your Grandchild you have fostered and had live with you for 2 years , waking up to his face , smile and morning kisses EVERY DAY ... And then he has GONE .. Yes you can still visit but it is not the SAME , MY ROUTINE REVOLVES AROUND HIM , AS DOES MY DAY AS DOES MY LIFE right now and he is the absolute JOY of my life and my home will not be the same without him and I will MISS HIM LIKE HELL and seeing him sometimes still will not get rid of the feelings of LOSS
Funnily enough when I have recovered from the loss I am planning on becoming a regular foster carer ( I must be mad I know ) but there is no age limit I think and I am 53 but to give the loving input the kid/s need and watch them develop and heal and be HAPPY is a reward in itself and no matter what I know I can be proud of the INPUT I have given and still thankfully am for the time being giving my Grandson who has Autism and it has not been EASY but nothing good comes easy and I have loved seeing him so happy and have and still am enjoying having him with me until ''that day'' comes...
And btw anyone whose Grandkids are taken into care do whatever you can to work with the authorities and show them your capabilities and stability and COMMITMENT because these kids NEED someone who is committed to them even if it is just for a temporary while although living with me or not I will be committed to my Grandson for LIFE <3
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