Hi I wonder if there is anyone out there who can give me some advice my daughter has 2 children and isn't really a very good parent she's quite lazy and the kids spend hours and hours in their bedroom playing computer games and watching t.v, they have both had 5 teeth extracted due to her not helping them clean their teeth she said they have weak teeth !! they are 4 and 6 overtime i have them they always smell and their hair dirty and not brushed etc, my daughter and i haven't got a good relationship but i am afraid to say anything as in the past when i have it has resulted in her moving away and not speaking to me for months, the main worry now is that she has had both children referred for assessments for Torrest adhd and autism more recently now its the CAMS team she feels that they both have difficulties and seems eager to have them labeled as having special needs, both are absolutely normal little boys and my husband mother and brother have not noticed anything wrong or different with either child, the older one has started to develop some behaviours and said he must be allowed to scream out as he has tics and can't help it, i'm completely sure that my daughter is telling them both that they have these conditions so that she has another excuse for her poor lazy parenting and its easier for her to blame something else for any bad behaviour, theres also the extra benefits i'm sure she will receive if she does get a diagnosis, it may sound to some that I am just a bitter Mother but i just don't know how to handle this next drama and instalment in her life, if the children carry on being labeled and she keeps telling them to act in a certain way i feel that it will become the norm for them, when they are with me or my mother we have honestly never noticed anything different, but my daughter keeps emailing me with a long list of their conditions please any advice ?
Is it me or am I getting mixed messages
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