Does she actually go away on the "once a month" week-end break, or is it merely a break away from the children and they stay at home? If they do go away, they must spend some money on that, couldn't they use that to provide paid child care instead of exploiting you? Why do they need a monthly break anyway, it sounds very unorthodox to go away quite that often. I believe from the previous thread you said the five children are not all your daughter's, a couple are from her partner's previous relationship, why don't they therefore go to their mother? or other grandparents? I think you have been unbelievably good to them in having all five children previously, it's one thing having the older one who I believe you said was 13 and therefore able to do things for herself but babies, toddlers and even young children need a lot of looking after. My heart goes out to you, your daughter sounds unreasonable and whilst you have been your daughter's age, she hasn't been yours so has no idea how much less energy you have now. I hate the way some people put out all this personal stuff on FB, she is only presenting one side of what should be a very private matter. Actually I don't think extended family support is an entitlement anyway unless it's offered without undue duress. I doubt whether there would be a person on GN who wouldn't sympathise with your situation. As others have said, hold firm, this is her family set up and she has to find a way of dealing with it without encroaching on her good natured mother in this way.